How Do I Get My Parents To Allow Me To Go To A Beach Without A Chaperone?

Philippines
January 31, 2007 4:47am CST
My parents are quite strict with me, probably because I'm a girl (my dad is very traditional) and I'm the youngest (though I'm already 20+). I tried asking them before to allow me to go out of town with my friends before, but they only allowed me when the place we were going to was within driving distance and the entire outing was only overnight. I always had to have a family member go with me if I wanted to go to a place via boat or plane and if I was going away for more than 2 days. However, this summer, my usual family chaperones (my sister or my brother) can't go with me. How do I convince my parents to allow me to go out of town with my friends without a chaperone for 5 days?
3 responses
@cutiedhes (507)
• Philippines
17 Apr 07
I understand how you feel before I used to be like that they never allow me to go to other places unless they know the people i am with not even staying on an overnight sleep. And until now i still ask permission from my parents whenever I go out with my friends but I never experience having a chaperon. My advice for you so that they will allow you to go out without chaperon is that you should show them that you are deserving to be trusted, you should let your parents know who are you with. Tell all the details where are you going and if ever you arrived on that place be sure to make them a call telling that you and your friends arrive there safe so that they won't get worry about you.
@joby_09 (498)
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
Are you still in school? If you are, i think its a natural thing for them to behave that way. But if you're already working and still, they can't give you their permission, that's really a problem. I also had a similar problem before. When i graduated from college, i thought i already have the freedom to do whatever i desire. But everytime i'll go out with my friends, i still have to explain every little detail of the activity. Well, i guess, the best thing to do there is take things slow. Earn their trust. Try to introduce your friends to them so that they'll know whom you are with. Don't go out too often. Or if you have so many activities, try to limit your time spent on each of them so that they'll know you're a disciplined and responsible daughter. =)
@chesssy (203)
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
maybe you should earn their trust by being more responsible. and don't lie to them about the trip, that would only make things worse. also, have your friends talk to them to convince them that you won't be in danger or will not be doing anything bad while on the trip :)