Are you one of those people who subscribe to 'Love at first sight'?
By livewyre
@livewyre (2450)
5 responses
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
28 Nov 07
I don't believe in love full stop! Some people have love thrust upon them and are surrounded by love because of their beauty or intellect, some of us never know true love, as for love at first sight yeah it happens, in films but not in real life. Lets be real here, we live in reality not in fantasy! Sorry forgive my cynical side here. I know that I will never experience true love and I accept that, I don't attract love, mind you I don't think I want it either, the trouble and hell it causes people, that I can do without.
@livewyre (2450)
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28 Nov 07
I think there's a lot to be said for avoiding the pain that comes along with love. My own experience is that we choose to love - I don't go with that falling in and then out of love nonsense. I believe that true love is a conscious decision, and as far as that goes, I absolutely agree. Whether you love or not, is your own gift that you can choose to bestow or not. Hence, if you say you will never love, then you are correct - what I am saying is that I don't believe that true love is an involuntary knee-jerk reaction. Those that think it is are just looking to blame exterior factors for their infidelity....
It would be tempting to say that you might lose out with the attitude that you have, but I can honestly see the value of your argument.
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@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
3 Feb 07
i don't beleive in love at first sight. you can't love someone you don't know, and your just basing love on looks. howerver i do beleive in lust at first sight.
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@mrsartemisfowl (55)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
No. I do not believe in love at first sight. I think this could just be attraction at best. I try to get to know people first before being friends with them. What more when it comes to an intimate relationship? To have a good long-term relationship, a person must know the other well but still accept each other.
@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
9 Mar 08
Yes I do think it exists...however whether the love lasts depends on how committed people are to each other. Within my personal and professional experiences I am well aware that creating relationships that last require a lot of emotional maturity and self-accountability.
So yes...I think people can look across a crowded room and zone in on a strong like attracts like resonance. I know those who experienced it and are still together after many years. However, they worked at keeping the magic alive and nurtured into a mature, honoring and very loving bond that gets better with each passing year. Anything worth having is worth working for...and with. At least that is how I see it.
Raia
@livewyre (2450)
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7 Apr 08
There are elements of what you say that I can agree with. I would say that seeing someone across a room is not love, but maybe the beginnings of a physical attraction which eventually turns into love. I certainly believe that a relationship demands hard work to keep it going.
@twinrachel (215)
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30 Mar 08
I think that people may think that they have fallen in love at forst sigt but it is probably more to do with attraction. I think that love is something which forms over time and even after knowing someone for years, our love for them can still grow.
@livewyre (2450)
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7 Apr 08
I think that we are not really taught (in popular culture - films etc..) the difference between love and attraction, and tend to think of them as being the same. I agree that love grows over time. From a personal perspective, I can state that I've learned a lot more about love since my daughter was born.
