I'm married but i'm having an affair...
By chellicks
@chellicks (904)
Philippines
11 responses
@chellicks (904)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
there's something that pushes me to have an affair
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
3 Feb 07
I've read your stories down there about your pregnancy and being the bread winner. If he wasn't your bf how was it that he was the father of your child? You got yourself into this mess from the beginning.
Like the other person said, if your bf can accept the child (which is not his) then maybe you can divorce and marry him instead. Your husband doesn't work and this might be why he is violent at you, his pride is wounded since you are the bread winner. This is bad for you and your child. It will be different if he is not violent.
Talk to your bf again to confirm what he thinks about marriage and bringing your child in your life togeter. You don't want your child to face another violent situation.
@kris2080 (157)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
I can see that you still love your hubby,and you're feeling guilty about it...If you really want to stop the affair,face the reality,act on your problems.Having an affair wont solve anything,it will even worsten the situation.Talk with your partner,tell him everything that is in your head and your heart...
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@mfhasibuan (250)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 07
i think a marriage should be base on love and trust.
If you still have an affair, just ask your self about your motivation.
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@chellicks (904)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
i loved him but it seems that he's showing his true color. that's the reason why i'm pushed to have an affair
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@Pekachu (1112)
• United States
31 Jan 07
well it seems like you are feeling guilty and need to get it out .I cant say i understand why people get married then cheat why not just stay single so you dont screwup someone elses chances of a real marrage
@chellicks (904)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
yes, i'm feeling guilty because i really don't want to have an affair. but there's something that pushes me to go on. we're having family problems.
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@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
31 Jan 07
Well clearly you are not happy in your marriage. You need to either go to counselling or speak with a lawyer about getting a divorce. You are hurting your husband by your actions.
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@chellicks (904)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
it's not that i'm unhappy. there we're just times that i cannot understand him, his attitude. and i think that's why i'm pushed to have an affair.
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@lordsgurl (39)
• United States
2 Feb 07
what is it that you are trying to seek are you feeling empty and lonely with your husband or is your husband not giving you enough attention
@kingsix (46)
• Qatar
2 Feb 07
Better leave your husband and go with your ex-bf.After all it is proven that you do not love your husband since you are not faithful to him.
It is hard to imagine that you have an affair and that you love your husband at the same time.I think it is not fair with your husband if you will continue with the forbidden affair.
Go away and bring your child with you.Stay away from your husband in all the way you can.
However,if you are a true Christian,I would suggest you stay away with troubles and leave with a peaceful life.
@dhineshrulz (108)
• India
2 Feb 07
nyways ur having an affair...u tellin ur pushed to do that...which means in someway ur not happy with ur husband...may be if u want to stop this....u talk with ur husband frankly...and be happpy with ur life...or else dont cheat him...take divorce and enjoy ur life...
@Myrrdin (3599)
• Canada
2 Feb 07
Affairs are bad, but from the sounds of it you just don't have the courage to leave him. Why not? And whatever you do do not try the "I don't want to hurt him" line, that one angers me to no end, had my ex use it on me, said she didn't leave me because she didn't want to hurt me, yet she cheated on me and basically abandoned me.
