fiancee has a deadbeat roomate -- advice needed
By lyndaj70
@lyndaj70 (293)
United States
January 31, 2007 7:46am CST
My fiancee and I have been wanting to marry for years, but ever since we started discussing it, his roommate went from pulling his own weight to being a deadbeat. He'll quit, get fired for things like absenteeism, get injured, fail drug tests, take months to find another job, and the whole while my fiancee pays his bills and supports him and says that he can't kick the guy out cause they have been roommates so long but can't understand why these last few years the guy hasn't been able to keep a job for anything! I just don't know how to handle the situation cause there is no way we can get married and take care of this guy even if I wanted that (and I don't). I'm ready to just give up out of frustration. Any advice on how to handle this situation?
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I believe I would have to tell my fiance that we can't move our lives forward if you are picking up someone elses slack. I would tell him that the guy is a friend and not a life long companion. I couldn't deal with someone who wasn't there to help us both grow. It is nice to help friends but your realtionship needs to come first. He needs to realize that maybe. Have a talk with him about it. It may help.
@lyndaj70 (293)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Thank you very much for your advice. . .I've been kinda catty about this situation, actually asking him how his "wife" was doing and stuff. I'm going to take all advice and figure out a way to tactfully resolve this situation -- one way or another. Thank you again.
