do we all go crazy at 40. i know i think so.

I know I did some crazy stuff when I turned 40, I had a complete hysterectomy and when I recovered I did some of the stupidest stuff. I look back now and honestly think I was trying desperately to hang on to my youth. It is hormonal to a degree, but it is also mental. You know it is now time to grow up and act like an adult. My child was only 10, but I was not ready to throw in the towel yet. The years from 40-50 are so different than any other time period. At least they were for me.

I don't think its a hormonal problem. I think its' a midlife crisis and might occur more in women who marry too early and have kids too early. this is happenning to a friend of mine who had her children at 19 and then 24. She never really had a chance to go out to bars with her friends in her early 20's, and now that her kids are grown, she is reliving her second childhood I guess. For most of my other friends and me included who didn't get married or start having kids until their 30's, this isn't happening.

I hope not, I am goig top be forty in another four years and I do not want to turn crazy like this. I am going to follow your thread to see how others feel about this one.

I turned 40 a couple of years ago, and I did not go crazy. I do know for a fact that I have started menopause, because of the hot flashes. I think many of the reasons women do some of those things is because... ...the children are about grown, they don't need her as much ...a lot of the excitement in the marriage bed is gone, and hubby is not spending the time with her I think with the kids and husband not demanding as much attention or giving as much attention, it leaves a void in her life that she is trying to fill. If the option is not there to have an affair, or drink, etc., she has a tendancy to get frustrated and everyone thinks she is going crazy. I think the cure to this is to have hobbies, join clubs, hang out with friends, etc. Sure there are hormonal imbalances, but women have dealt with that for thousands of years, and not all of them went nuts.

Mid life crisis isn't only applicable to women but men as well. This is the critical time when reality hit them the most, feeding their long overdue resentment and the lack of sense of fulfilment. People hitting 40s begin seeing themselves going downhill with nothing exciting and adrenaline pumping to keep them preoccupied in their dying times. Just maybe.

Here we call it 'mad woman disease' I don't know what causes it but it seems to be more prevalent amongst the better off perhaps because they can afford an existential crisis, or afford to let it effect them I should say all the best urban

I'm getting ready to turm 40 in a few months. Man I hope I don't go through this weird phase. Already tried drinking - not going there again. Not married so I won't be leaving my husband. But if most women go through these kind of stages I feel sorry for my 5 year old son. For those of you that believe in Jesus and are a praying person - please pray for my son and I.