Why people never said what they think really?

I think before we say anything to someone we should first put ourselves in their shoes. But sometimes even when we know it's gonna hurt, we have to tell someone thr truth. It's the way we deliver the truth that often will determine whether the person will be sad but grateful to know the truth or sad and mad =D Faithful is the wounds of a friend is a verse from Proverbs that I just read today.

If it was something kind of really bad, like a good friend bought a dress and looked awful in it.. I would not want her to go out looking like that, so I would say nicely that I don't think that it looks very good. If it was just a messy hair day, I don't think I would say anything.

I think that applys to both of us. I think we both were in the same situation. don't you think?

some people dont open up easily or even comment on anyones appearances due to fear of the outcome of it...and some have not thecourage to open their mouth coz of shyness..

Maybe it is because they don't want anyone to get hurt. But for me, the reality really hurts. There are times where we really have to tell the truth, for example, you see a morning star on your friends face, it is better to tell it to her than not, because if you didn't, others who might see it might laugh at her and so that's it, and then she will tell you "why didn't you tell me!"

i agree with what you just said. i think that most of us hold back on the things that they really think is because we are very considerate people, that we consider other's feelings and reactions to whatever opinions we have to say. also, sometimes, people are just too cautious about what they have to say, so to save themselves for much trouble, they just shut their mouths, then no danger can be experienced. So goes the line, "me and my big mouth."

I would have to agree with you its not right to make a person feel bad. I often think these thoughts but would never hurt someones feelings unless Im really close to a person and they wouldnt take it the wrong way.

I agree with you. Its always been hard for me to open my mouth and tell anyone what I think about something if I think it might hurt them or make them mad at me. I am more of a keep it to myself and dont cause trouble kind of person. It takes alot to make me get to a point to where I will finally open my mouth if you have made me mad, but it takes a long time to get to that point because I just feel bad about hurting others..

Yeah we do alot of not telling what we think or feel so as to not hurt the other people. This gets annoying and frustrating sometimes though, depending on the subject, for us and for the other people involved.Then when you have to tell the truth, because if you dont you will be the one hurting or doing something you regret if you don't, it ends up hurting them more. Seems sometimes you can't win. Your damned if you and your damned if you don't.

Yes, but if we know how to say it to them in a nice way, I think they wouldn't take it as an offense. We should be more open-minded and take this as a friendly advice and not to take it seriously. We should be all pessimistic and more humane when it comes to critisms.

I agree we try to put ourselves in other peoples shoes, I have really wanted to say something to someone that i felt they were being very bold to ask be particular questions but i felt bold to even tell them they were bold. I guess i just dont want to hurt other peoples feelings but i guess it isnt good to keep things in either.

MANY TIMES WE CANNOT SAY TO SOMEBODY WHICH WE WANT TO SAY IN OUR LIFE DUE TO SOME THINKING OF GETTING HURTED OTHER PERSON BUT THERE IS A RIGHT TIME WHEN THEY UNDERSTAND YOUR FEELINGS REALLY......

I agree with you... I also dont say at times when i think lets say the person is eatting too much and getting fat. So i dont tell him/her that because i might hurt his/her feelings...

just honst is ok.

Yes it is difficult to say some thing about others aperson may feel embrassed and may feel bad.very few people take things sportively.So we better keep it for our self.

You need to assess the situation before trashing anyone. You don't want yourself in a compromising situation, so think before you leap. Put yourself in someone else's shoe before letting the cat out the bag. You needn't act like one of the superheroes all the time.

yaa u r right,if way say all the things what we thinks in our minds then it may hurt the feelings of other person.

i would not say the truth,if i should hurt someone if i dont like a dress,i wont tell. but i will tell the truth if i would like someone else. that is hurting too,but then i will say what i really think or feel. i always tried to be honest,cause i just hate lying!

yes, there are millions of peoples, who dont ever care for ohter feelings, & they never understand other's feelings, ever never, at all they are thoes peoples who realy are feeling less. they dont care, even for thier best friends, i don wana make friendship wiht these sort of peoples any more...they are just bullshit.. they never ever care, notting matters for them, even u do so much good to them. I think we should be stright & tell others what they have been cookin, but yes we should not insult some one & say bad of any one.

Simple things like that doesn't really need honesty sometimes, if you can't tell a lie then just keep your mouth shut. I sometimes keep things to myself, well because I know there's a difference between being honest and someone who's being too blunt.