love yourself or others first?

wow this is a deep question to answer, especially since i have been drinking tonight but i will do my best and read this in the morning and may edit some if not all my opinions. Well i think you need a bit of both. In order to love yourself i think you need to be able to love others. I feel it is more of a cycle. When you love others you see that it makes them feel better and thus as a result/side effect, you feel better and thus by loving them you slightly loved your self (if that made any sense) You definatly need to put your needs in front sometimes but definatly not all the time. If you think about it there are lots of times when people are not asking this of you. At this point in time is when you put your needs ahead. Yet when someone needs your help, that when you put their needs ahead. There is a right time for everythings. Its true though at times your needs coming at the same time as someone elses needs, so what do you do? either you can try to forfill them both and do an alright job with both of them or you can try to fill one of your needs and forfill it completely while leaveing the otherone un touched. There are many people in the world aswell which you must remember so if you dont fill your friends need at one point he may be able to get one of his/her other friends to fill their need. Basically i think people need to have many friends in order to avoid having to decied these types of questions. cheers Plunt

I have to agree with archer on this one. I don't know if it is possible to love another unless you love yourself first. Also, it is said that if you don't love yourself, how can anyone love you? The only living being on this planet I know of that can love someone else is without loving itself is a dog. I guess that is why, they are considered "mans' best friend". I can't say there aren't people that love others before themselves, but I am for sure not one of 'em. I am a true believer in love yourself, because guess what? You are going to spend a lot of time with yourself :)