i need help for a friend..
By yanjiaren
@yanjiaren (9031)
January 31, 2007 9:47am CST
a friend of mine is in a relationship..not yet married..engaged...but a friend of hers is passionately i love with her..her fiance is not so in to her but he says he loves her and is committed..but the guy that has fallen in love with her has showered her woith attention..what is the poor girl to do? she is committed to this guy..they are to be married soon..
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9 responses
@simplysue (631)
• United States
3 Feb 07
What jumped out and slapped me in the face is the statement is 'her fiance is not so in to her but he says he loves her and is commited' I don't know one man on the face of the earth who love and commit to a woman that he wasn't into. As an outsider looking in, it sounds like your friend is having a case of cold feet.
Also, there is a strange phenomenon among some men that they are only passionately in love with a woman because they know darn right well she isn't available.
I guess in the end your friend has to figure out if she loves her fiance. If not, she shouldn't marry him. If so, she should tell her friend that she is flattered but she loves her fiance and is going to marry him and she would appreciate it if he would love her enough to step aside and allow her to have a happy life with her fiance.
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@bonita002 (98)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Very well said simplysue: my thoughts exactly. If a man is in love and committed to the woman He is "into her". As for the other man it's the case of "you only want what you can't have" sort of thing. She sounds comfused about all of this but needs stick with her fiance.
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@etheljeah (98)
• Canada
9 Feb 07
yup i agree.. that man should be called "insane" for bein committed to a person whom he doesnt love. and on the contrary,i thnk that the girl that in the picture might also be some feelin for the second guy because if he loves his man and willin to marry him,there she shouldnt have any second thoughts. i mean if someone loves the person that much,even if there barriers between them,that shouldnt affect the relationship that they have built together.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I say that she should postpone the wedding until she clearly knows who she wants to be with. She may be choosing the wrong person to spend the rest of her life with, if she makes a decsion too quickly.
@siddhupotluri (225)
• India
31 Jan 07
i think ur friend should go ahead with her fiance.. atleast there will be a moral support from her parents if anthing goes wrong..
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@cuddleme01 (2725)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
your friend should pick one. she should choose the one she loves.
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I think it depends on which one SHE is more in love with. Whether she and her fiance are getting married soon or not, she needs to decide which relationship makes her happier. It's better to change the mind before the marriage, than to wait until afterward.
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@pankajdantla (996)
• India
9 Feb 07
If u love with him u go and tell him about u r love ,if he doesn't reply to you....U like very much him then u can also suggest their parents asked about u r love .........if u afraid about all this to do then u have to forgot u r love i think .....sorry if i have write something wrong
@few00cent (2183)
• India
3 Feb 07
she must go with her heart.maybe its just infactuation of her friend and her friend just seeking her attention doesn't mean it will be same when she go with him.you see,i too not much into my girlfriend but i do love her from bottom of my heart.i would say she must listean to her heart and make up her.
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@Lush_heidi (994)
• United States
3 Feb 07
She needs to really follow her heart. If she marries and isnt truly in love, it could be a big mistake, if the one who loves her deeply cares so much, she needs to explore the possibility of a relationship with him, as he could be Mr Right! And she foesnt need to him slip by without exploring this.
