Wedding Vows - Till Death Do we Part or Till Divorce Do we Part?

I think divorce is being used as an easy out. If you are going to get married than you BOTH should be willing to put all of yourselves into the relationship for life. I remember when Brad Pitt was married to Jennifer Aniston he said that marriage was good for awhile. He pretty much went in with the attitude that it wouldn't last. How can a marriage last if you don't expect it to? If you believe it won't work, it won't. So going in with marriage with vows of "until divorce do us part" is just asking for a divorce. And if that is the case, then why get married? Divorce is not fun and it is not cheap. It is easier to walk away from someone when you are not married to them. But these days, it is too easy to walk away when people are married. They give up too easily, or aren't mature enough to handle the commitment required. I did not end my first marriage, my EX did. He was abusive to me right from the beginning but I would not give up easily. I was not going to give up on my marriage. But when the going got rough, the tough guy got going... right out of the province. Widdle boy runaway home. All he needed was some counselling (he was abused by his own parents) but men think that kind of thing is wimpy. They'd rather run away than face the real problem(s). Divorce is too easy. You have to earn your way out of a marriage. That means doing everything you can to make it work before giving up.

I do believe in divorce but we need better ways of handling it, with responsibilities on both sides.

LOL that's a good one and is very true with the high rate of divorce these days. But I don't think the vows should be changed to that because I believe that before you get married you should know that you love EVERY thing about that person and you WILL spend the rest of your life with that person. If your having problems with you mariage, get counseling, don' just walk away from it, that's being a coward. People need to do alot of THINKING before marrying someone.

whether there is an option or not, if you are trully in love with each other, the divorce option is not gonna be an option. you will be both helping one another through thick or thin.that is what love is all about.if you are to marry and divorce is an option for the both of you then your relationship is doomed.you only get a divorce in extreme cases

I think that the wedding vows are important. The vows did not let you down. People let you down. People make promises all the time and don't keep them. If someone tells you they love you and you accept them at their word and they betray you, I don't believe it negates the weight or importance of the words "I love you" or marriage. Marriage is still valuable. I think the words or the institution is greater than a few people or even half the population who could not stay together.

I believe that marriages should last forever. But you see, that's only my belief. LOL Thing is, some of my friends who married young are now divorced and I can understand why. People fall in love, they fall out of love and in love again with someone else. Divorce is an option, should stay as an option to everyone who wants out. Sometimes, things just doesn't work out, you dig?

I think these days it is until divorse do we part, down to the fact that people are spending stupid amounts of money getting married for the wrong reasons. Being together for a week meeting on the internet that sort of things and to be honest it is a shame because all it does is provides heartbreak. There is some old romantics out there still and it is them i feel sorry for being single and not having anyone to love.

I think ------ till we dont want to tear each other apart. Wish none of the married couple come at this stage.They should always be ----Love,we can't live apart.

I think the best of intentions go sour sometimes. I don't think that forgiveness nor counciling fixes all problems. Sometimes the best thing for everyone involved is divorce. I think in certain cases the only option is divorce.

sorry i really cannot take care of this thing

Well look to the noble truths of buddhism, nothing lasts and that is very true.

ur right. the divorce rate has increased to an alarming rate in recent years. but the marriage voe should be-TILL END OF LOVE IN MY HEART FOR U DO WE PART.

Marriage gets a bad rap, but the truth is that more people who marry stay together than they divorce. The highest divorce rate is in the good old USA where it is almost but not quite 50%. I think this is mostly because people marry too soon, and because we are in a selfish society, where if things aren't good, we don't want to work to make them good. Also commitment isn't really highly regarded. Most people are out of there as soon as the going gets tough. Most people don't even think about their vows when they say them. I think it's a facet of our society and not of us as individuals though.

As a twice divorced but now happily married fifteen years woman, I can honestly say that I don't believe it is the sanctity of marraige we have lost but the practice of waiting. We are full of impatience in our society, everyone wants to hurry, hurry. I think if people took more time, a year or so, and really learned the other person, you would see fewer divorces. You would see fewer marraiges too! Also, it is so easy to forget that every day of our lives we evolve so that in ten years you are not exactly the same person you were before. In forgetting that we tend to let our relationships falter instead of recognizing and dealing with the changes. We let them add up until we cannot deal with them all or we simply do not know our spouse anymore. Patience and attention to detail is what we need more of before we say I do and after...

LOL, thats a good one. It crushes me to find that the divorce rate keeps going up and up, but its just happening everyday. The couple cannot tolerate each other and then ... BANG... its over. In a way, the option of divorce has made people not work so hard to save their marriages. Sad yet true !!!

Well... im getting married in November and I believe in the sanctity of marriage. Those who go into marriage thinking otherwise is keeping a foot out so that in case they dont get along with their spouse its easy to divorce them. Marriage takes a lot of work and one must be ready to accept the bad times along with the good. But i've never been married before but hope that its not all bad and that something good still exists in this world

I think the tie that binds the marriage is their faith in God and uncoditional love for each other. As they say love conquers all if two people love each other uncoditionally, they can be together through thick and thin.

it is all about love marriage is a silly custome. if yuo love someone u will love her to the dawn of ur life no matter she is ur wife or not or even she is with u or not if u don'yt love the one you r married to then u will never get along no matter u live with her for ur life

I don't know about other peoples relationships but when me and my husband were talking about getting married we had very serious discussions about what we both believed. We also took divorce off the table. We made a pact with ourselves that it would not be that easy to just decide to quit. And because of that we actually work out our issues and we feel safe with each other because we are both on the same page. We both take marriage very seriously but I could see how hard it would be if you were married to someone who did not take it seriously. I think it should not be so easy to get a divorce and then maybe people would think harder on the whole getting married issue but I guess that is just not how it is nowadays. I do have to add though that you should 100% get a divorce if you are in an abusive relationship and the person will not get help - I've seen this distruction first hand and divorce was the best thing all around.

I'd have to say that divorce is such an easy escape. People seem to give up on marriage so easy anymore. Its WORK! Just because you change, means you CHANGE together. Its about experience being together and supporting eachother. If a marriage can't withstand that, then I truly believe they were never ready for marriage.