My Son

i think the best thing 2 do is if he keeps lying dont buy him any treats until he starts admitting to wat he does. that way he will be jealous of ur other son that he will learn not to do it anymore. good luck marriedman.

I have not had this problem. My son has always been honest with me. We made it very clear that when he lies the punishment will be much worse than if he had told the truth. I found this link that might help. http://webhome.idirect.com/~readon/lies.html

1st you have to talk to them oftenly to advice them how important being honest, because lie would only make them in deep trouble.give them an example what the worst thing could happens if they didnt tell the truth,eg.if they play with fire in the house it could cause the house will be burn and they'll have no place to live, not to mention if they get burn also.

hi there, it would be geat if you could hide all lighters and matches away from children, and if they did lie to you, the best way is to punish them, because they might learn and not lie to you again. when my auntie was asleep one time, my cousin found matches and lit the kitchen bin on fire, he was only about 6 years of age, there whole kitchena dn living room was wrecked and everything got destrpyed, the child managed to get upstairs and lock the bedroom door and luckily they all got saved from the fire and nobody got burnt. i always hide my matches and lighters now because of what happeend to them, thinking it will happen to me!

We must try to tell truth.

I think the main reason kids lie is because they are afraid of getting in trouble. I would simply try to have a talk with him and let me know lying will just get him in more trouble and its alot better to just tell the truth the first time. Make sure he knows the consequences of playing with fire: could cause your house to burn down then you will be without a home and your belongings. At any rate, I think a good heart to heart talk might help.

For this there is no solution. Those type of people has to change their attitude only by themselves. For an chance we can give him advice by his friend to make him change this habbit so that he may change. Let us try that. True friendship can change anything in life.

punish them is probably the first thing that comes to my mind. actually, my 4 yr old son started lying a while back. i keep telling him not to and i sit there and tell him its not nice to lie. since he's young i take it easy hoping that it will stick in his head. i've told him that if he keeps lying to us, we're never going to believe him when he does tell the truth. but something as dangerous as matches...i'm not too sure what i would do. i would probably tell them the punishment would be less if they didn't lie, and it would be up to them to test that out for themselves. which for me, it would be true. i'd rather they tell me they screwed up then they trying to cover it up, everyone knows it always makes the situation worse. hopfully, they understand and learn their lesson. but then again, every child is different and learns in different ways.

You have to tell them, that lying is very bad and that they will always be discovered. Also tell them, that everytime they feel lying it's because they want to hide something, and whenever you feel like hiding something, it's usually a bad thing. So they should behave in order not to have to lie anymore. And also tell them, that they can you (you and your wife) anything, because you are their parents, you love them no matter what happens or what they do, and they shouldn't hide anything from you.

honestly theres nothing you can do. if they want to do it they will just tell them they cant do it under your roof and you dont approve then you have to hope they make the right decision.. dont try to control them that will just make it worse.

It will take some time but if you keep on trying to get through, he will eventually start telling the truth. You should tell him that when he lies, that he loses trust with you and if you can't trust him it will mean he will not be allowed to do some things he could do when you did trust him. He won't be able to have privleges and resposiblities without trust. I mean if you can't trust him to tell the truth, there are a lot of things you can tell him you can't trust him to have. I told my daughter that I couldn't trust her to have her tv and video games because she might lie to me about using them when she wasn't supposed to. And maybe I couldn't trust her enough for other things, too. I think the person that said you should show him how it feels to be lied to made a great suggestion. Don't give up, it is important that you try to show him (no matter how frustrating it is) that lying is a bad choice and in the end it hurts him more than the truth ever will. Not having trust can make his life miserable.

My mother's remedy was to use hot pepper brine on our tongues or on the lips. Her point was that lying was the devil's doing, so you must like the taste of fire. Well, it worked for us, and it did not harm us. It was hot and uncomfortable, but no harm came of it. I think that is a phase. Never, I repeat, Never let them get away with breaking the rules. Kids like consistent, structure. If they know they can't they won't, or at least are less likely.

Maybe, the first act from me is angry with my son because he was lie with his parents.. How annoying if your son lie with you.. zz.. But, you angry don't judge your son with stern.. Give him a way and time to chance his attitude to be a good son.. Tell him to don't do it again this fault and this time maybe can make your son aware with his fault..

God bless you marriedman111399.

There is nothing at all what you can do about it.Just keep a watchful eye on those kids that they do not accidentaly play with fire that can be dangerous at times.Rest all is fine I suppose.

i think you and your son needs to have a heart to heart talk,if he do something bad, just dont brag and shout to him, let him tel the truth naturally, and most of all be a best friend to your son,so that you will have an open and healthy relationship. goodluck,,stay happy

do you smoke,if you smoke then you need to smoke separately without knowing by your son,and nothing to do with him and you do not smoke you should better to talk to your son ,explain him that smoking is not good for our health.

My carpooler has kids that do that...She's at the point she is scared to leave them alone in the house. She constantly worries at work, especially during the summertime... The only thing I can suggest is try talking to them, communicating with them more. Disciplining them, taking things that means the most to them. Possibly trying to turn the bad into good, suggesting if they do things around the house, refraim from doing things to get in trouble, etc...Possibly start a allowance plan. (I know it shouldn't have to be like that, but sometimes to keep sanity within self, your home, and your kids, it could be a method that works) I know it's touchy, because there is no guarentee that they will listen..Kids now a days are so sassy, and grown acting. Some kids are worried about the after effects (not wanting to get in trouble) choose to lie. It's a sticky situation... Good luck to you and your family...

well, i just have 1 advice, and that comes from my own experience.. i lie to my parents alot.. i do it because i dont want to get into trouble.. because thir PUNISHMENT IS HARSH... let you kids feel that its ok to make mistakes.. and that they wont be punished really badly.. they will be more open to you. they just fear the punishment will be too much.. be their friend also,

The only thing that you do is just explain them the disadvantages of lie tell are advantages of truth ..... and tell them until they agree to you come on right path.....as they are in small age I think they need some time to understand......