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I beleive that this subject should come up before the marriage takes place. In my opinion, yes, they should, as they are raising the children.

It was easier for me because I became a step mom when they were only 1 and 2. So they grew up respecting me and my authority. But yes, I believe that even if they had been 11 and 12 I have the right to punish and discipline. They need to respect all adults and especially the wife of their dad. Also, if they are staying at my house they will respect the rules of the house even if its more strict than their moms house. Most children now days are not taught enough respect.

yes they have a right as long as the dosciplining does not involve hitting them or punishing them physically and verbally. Respect should also be given to the step parent. The fact that your true parent love her then you should also try to see what make your parent love her. Every person has their good and beautiful side. try to discover it so that your new family can become whole again.

that depends on what you mean by displine. do you mean putting them on punishment, spanking things like that? because if that is what you mean then i would say no. that is the job of the parent. may you tell them the difference between right and wrong of course. may you correct them yes. as an adult you should be a teacher. but as a step parent you can only go so far.

If a step parent hasn't taken the time to adopt the step children, then, no he/she hasn't the right to punish them. To me that's saying that the step child isn't important enough to them.