WOMEN! - How do we learn to be more selfish?
By Soulistix
@Soulistix (261)
Australia
February 1, 2007 5:07am CST
Has anyone seen the breakfast cereal Advertisement for "Special K"
The Kellogg's Special K "Remember you" promotion. (www.specialk.com.au)
Everytime I see this ad I cry. I really feel the emotion inside of me.
Why is it that women always put others first and never seem to do much for themselves?
Why we can warrant spending money on our partners, kids, & friends but not ourselves.
Putting others first and ourselves last. Saying yes when we really want to say no.
I am one of those women who needs to learn to be selfish, put myself at the top of my "to do" list and celebrate it!
I would like to hear from other women who feel that they are not their number one priority and need to make a change, but are not sure how to take the first step?
OR even those women who have beaten years of tradition and taken the step. Share your thoughts. Positive and helpful comments only please.
1 response
@camille101 (1025)
• United Arab Emirates
1 Feb 07
I used to be unselfish, thinking more of my family and myself as the last. I've been like this for years, but lately I'm trying hard to gain my self-control and my self-confidence. Slowly and gradually, I'm trying to gain my self-worth, voicing out my real thoughts and perspective. Now, when I'm having conversation with my husband, I no longer pretend about what i like and dislikes, in a healthy manner, no shouting, respecting each other's point of view. We normally discuss each other's past, beliefs, and experiences, in such a manner, we learn more about our priorities, we exchange ideals and wishes. So through these discussions, we gain more respect for each other, we learn to listen, give and take. Communication and respect are the best tools there is you can use. You'll be astonished and grateful how others will react in the light of your honesty.
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@Soulistix (261)
• Australia
1 Feb 07
Just like you, I have been doing just that in recent times.
I still find that I cant warrant spending money on myself (even for a haircut!)
I actually have to get angry with myself and just go out and do it so it gets done!
I would rather do it for the enjoyment of it rather than force myself because it becomes absolutely necessary.
@camille101 (1025)
• United Arab Emirates
2 Feb 07
Well, just as the old saying goes 'constant practice makes it perfect'. Don't worry, just keep your emotions in check, monitor your own reactions, improvise solutions and try to incorporate it to your daily lives. you'll soon find out, you're on the way to being "selfish".
@Soulistix (261)
• Australia
2 Feb 07
Many thank you's!
You are a great support and a great help.
Its good to talk to other women out there who have had or are having similar issues.
