One mean response...
By monica1216
@monica1216 (509)
United States
February 1, 2007 9:58am CST
I've been posting here for a couple weeks now and I'm up to over 200 posts. I have really been enjoying MyLot. I love reading what people from other parts of the world wish to talk about and learning new things. I have learned a couple new things regarding the Muslim faith that I did not know before and I heard Michael Jackson's "Give Thanks to Allah" song here on MyLot that I had never heard before. Basically I've really been having fun posting here on myLot and was hoping to atleast reach the first minimum payout before deciding if I would continue spending so much time here. Then just today someone posted something really rude and offensive to me regarding a discussion I started. And her response leaves me feeling sad and like I don't want to post here anymore. I know I'm over-reacting and will feel better in a little while but it really hurt my feelings.
Have you been through those kinds of feelings after posting here on MyLot?
*sigh*
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62 responses
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
1 Feb 07
You are not alone and please don't take it to heart, everyone has had some bad feedback, or nastiness thrown at them, whilst this is a great site, a friendly community, like life you will always get a certain few who will use this site to attack others, getting back at them, or if they disagree with you will use underhand comments. Ignore them, if they don't agree with you that is there problem, most people are adult enough to accept your different views on subjects. Don't be sad, remember there are loads of people who enjoy responding to your discussions. Don't let the voice of a few ruin it for you! Keep up the great work ok!
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@firoafame (359)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
2 Feb 07
yeah i dont think there is actualy anything to get upset about being treated badly.
@shundiggs (183)
• Nigeria
2 Feb 07
try not to let it get to you. Most people on mylot don't think about what they say. they are just on my lot to make money and don't really care who they hurt in the process. Try not to let anyone spoil your day.
@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
2 Feb 07
yeah, some people just don't communicate well. Don't take it personally. I had a rude response with my first discussion. I am trying NOT to let it bug me either, because for one RUDE post, I had at least 10 very constructive and nice posts... so keep those close, and blow off the rude ones (feel free to report them if they are offensive!)
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@kool78 (490)
• India
2 Feb 07
ya monica u r just behaving like a normal girl.
grow up from this girly girly kinda image.
when u r here u should understand that some may appreciate ur work and some may critize it.
do the people who have responded to ur msg have any importance in ur life that u should feel bad about how they have responded to ur discussion.
does it really matter when they do not know who u r ?
@monica1216 (509)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Amazing! You seem to know me so well.
Thanks for your words. You write to me as if you are my brother!
Wishing you great success on MyLot and in life.
:)
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
You just have to ignore those people who turns you down, maybe they are just jealous on your performance here. Just continue on posting your interests and don't take criticisms too seriously. Also remember that this site is an international community, so you will encourter more people that would sometimes oppose you. Just keep it up here and enjoy the time!;)
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@craftyqueen2007 (151)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I read what the lady said, and I'm sorry she did that. She shouldn't have said what she did. You are just wanting your puppy, that's not wrong or scamming anybody. I think she got the wrong impression and offended you in the process. Good luck getting your puppy and don't let her get to you. She's obviously an angry woman who just wanted to lash out on someone and she chose you.
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@monica1216 (509)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I know. Thanks for letting me know that you can see my side of it when you read what she wrote. I'm over it now. It's a new day! She's still not going to apologize though -- which is fine but I'm amazed that even after all the responses basically agreeing with me she can't see that her jusgement was inconsiderate. Oh well. That does make me sad that some people just cannot say "i'm sorry".
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@few00cent (2183)
• India
2 Feb 07
yeah,one user in my friend list gave ill impression about me to the world..i was just trying to help that person in his/her earning.anyways i gave my answer and later he/she apologize to me.i can understand how you must have felt and hurted.I'll urge you not to give heck for those kind of people and don't let it come on you.you see,here many morons and inferior person plead to be innocent and act smart as if there are some great.don't be sad just answer them in there language.i read your that discussion but not all post.the one who said you spamming really sound insane person to me.it seems to me that he/she was jealous with your discussion,that you will get more response to that discussion.please don't be upset.its happen.dont bother coarse person words.keep posting :)
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
2 Feb 07
it's easy to think of not taking it personally. but by the time such rude responses struck you and when people judge you, make responses that are out of the line and being too personal, you'll surely be hurt up to the point of quitting. been there before many times.
to monica: believe in yourself. just think that you are not a quitter. those mean people are here to destroy us. let's not let them.
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@deladieri (170)
• Indonesia
2 Feb 07
care to share the discussion link that contain the rude reply?? ?
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@monica1216 (509)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I can't show you because MyLot actually removed the whole discussion about it. The girl who posted the rude response to me was getting so many negative ratings that her star rating went from a 9 down to a 4 in just one day. I guess she complained to MyLot that others were picking on her.
I was happy to see the overwhelming response from the MyLot community showing that we do not appreciate rude comments that are totally unjustified.
@shawn2008 (296)
• United States
2 Feb 07
yea sometimes people can be just plain rude. im curious though. what exactly did they say? it would be easior to help if i had that little tid bit or information lol. XD
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@monica1216 (509)
• United States
2 Feb 07
MyLot actually removed my whole discussion about it because the rude person was getting so many negative ratings that her star rating went from a 9 down to a 4 in one day! haha.
That did make me feel better to see that the MyLot community was not impressed with her rude comments to me.
@Lush_heidi (994)
• United States
2 Feb 07
while I am new here,keep in mind that when someone says hurtful things and lashes out at you, they are really attacking their own insecurities. They amount to bullies with no life so dont give them the satisfaction of running you off. You have a lot to contribute,and they if dont like your posts-they are under no obligaton to read it!
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@nufoundglory (1353)
• Serbia And Montenegro
2 Feb 07
I agree. By doing that they are actually just attacking their own insecurities.
@monica1216 (509)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Thank you! I do have a lot to contribute and I appreciate the kind words from both of you.
@coralespacial (43)
• Mexico
2 Feb 07
hello there! ur soo cute :) dont worry about it! these things happen...u know how people are :(.....get back online and be happy:) and get to know me too lol....i found ur posting very cute! :) good luck! dont even worry about it, it isnt even worth it
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@monica1216 (509)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Thank you!!!! That was really sweet of you to say. :)
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@fiyahcreation (2140)
• United States
2 Feb 07
who cares, you just have to ignore, there will always be an ignoramus who feels the need to say something stupid, just ignore it
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@lossforredwords (3620)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
know what.. i experienced that too sometimes, or there are times that misunderstood me and say things that could hurt my feelings.
but whenever i have that feeling i dont feel like quiting , i feel more motivated to fight for my self and explain my side.
giving opinions which someitimes bad, rude, mean and hurtful are natural in this kind of forum. we cannot please everybody. its up to us how we will percieve that certain comment.
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@cyntrow (8523)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I have run across people like this and I would suggest taking down the name and checking their other responses to other discussions. I think you will find that they are rude to everyone, not just you. Giving this knowledge, you need to weigh the comments of this one rude person, who is probably just naturally rude, against everyone else who are generally nice and make up your mind from there. Hope you stay. Take care
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@raj_neo07 (151)
• India
2 Feb 07
well, I havent had any such experience yet. but I would say, like leave it off just there and go on with the good work
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@unusualsuspect (2602)
• United States
2 Feb 07
If you spend any amount of time on the web where people can express their opinions you will run into all kinds of responses. I know you'll get over this one, but why be upset by it at all? Just shake your head at their rudeness, or laugh, because sometimes it's worth laughing at. Then go on and forget about it.
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