How do I ask a girl out on a date?
@gavinjayanand (61)
Guam
February 1, 2007 10:21am CST
Hi there, really hope my fellow 'MyLotters' can help me out with this.
I've known this girl for approximately one year, and when I asked her to go out with me (I've been always nice to her, a good friend, stuff like that), she said okay at first, but later called and cancelled. What could be the problem?
I do not have a problem physically, I workout, have an okay looking face, and am generally a nice person(am not bragging). I don't even swear! Please, could I get a few (RE:useful) tips on asking a girl out on a date?
Thanks in advance!!!
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5 responses
@seenkung (425)
• Malaysia
2 Feb 07
I would recommed you to tell her that you like her after you can't stop thinking of her. If she rejects,try to be calm and accept her as your friend.I hope you will suceed and inform me your good news.Go for a date is something beyond friendship.
@justreal (2364)
• Canada
1 Feb 07
Always leave home well-groomed. While, you do not have to be the best-looking man on the block, it does help if you look like you care about your appearance.
Think about what you are going to say before you say it. No matter what female you approach, you will find there will be one universal truth about them all. All women like to be complimented.
Never be afraid to ask for what you want. If you want to ask a girl out but you do not feel you know her well enough, test the waters and ask for her phone number.
If she likes your approach, she will give you hers or ask for yours. If she gives you her number, call her.
Have a Plan of Action. If you know the girl, it is best to plan the first date around her interests.
@blindedfox (3315)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
Well, maybe you are just being paranoid of why she cancelled the date. =) Maybe she has some things that needs to be attended to. According to how you evaluated yourself, I think there is nothing wrong. =) Just ask her again some other time. She also has some personal matters to attend to ya know. =)
@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
1 Feb 07
OK, there is no magic formula that will make a girl say yes to a date. If she is interested, she will say yes and she will go. There are no magic words that will make an uninterested girl say yes.
The other problem here, is that we are raised to be nice. So saying no to your face can be hard. You can ask her if she wants to reschedule, but when a girl calls and cancels (especially repeatedly) it means she isn't mature enough to tell you to your face that she wasn't interested in the first place.
I KNOW this stinks... you are going to face a LOT of rejections when asking people out. But if you never ask, you'll never get a "yes" either. This reaction will get better as you get older and a) you are better able to identify women who are interested and who will say yes and mean it, and b) the girls grow up and mature and have enough confidence and respectfulness to say no if they really aren't interested. We also learn how to say it in a polite way that won't crush you.
I hope this helps - dating is really hard, and you have to be able to take 9 rejections in order to get to that 10th one that will turn into a date...
Attraction is a two way game, and because someone isn't attracted to you doens't mean that you are ugly, or mean or anything, it just means she isn't attracted to you. But someone else at this very moment probably IS, you just haven't identified a mutual attraction yet...