What do you do when Mom Moves in?
By lvsummer
@lvsummer (25)
United States
February 1, 2007 4:17pm CST
I managed to move 2500 miles from my family because I wanted to get away from them. Now my mother and father are seperated and she has moved across country to live with me. With 4 children (including twins) life is set one a time frame and schedule each day. How do you fit an almost 60 year old mother into the picture?
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
I don't know why you cannot welcome your mom into the house. Sixty is not too old. She will manage to take care of herself and help out in the house chores. Just ask her kindly. Explain to her why you need her to help you around. She'll understand.
My mom is already approaching 80 and I am trying my best to convince her to move over with us. She's so hard-headed, wants to stay on in the farm. I fear for her considering that there are only two of them in that really big farm house and when her companion goes for an errand it will take a day at least and could last to 3 days at times. The nearest neighbors are more than 2 kilometers away. I am really worried sick.
@lvsummer (25)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I agree with you. I have wanted her to mve in for a long time because of the relationship she had with my father. I was just asking for advice on how to incorporate someone so set in their ways into your life.
It has been an asset having her here at times and a struggle during others. I can truly say life has changed but it is for the better.
We will struggle, fight and maybe even hate sometimes, but we end the day with love and that is the most imprtant part of it all.
@jennybeans (912)
• United States
1 Feb 07
it probably won't be easy at first, but she may prove to be a great help to you and your family in the end. Long before the twenty-first century families lived close together like this and the grandparents were a part of their grandchildren's upbringing. I would also try to get your mom involved in some community activities with other folks her age so she feels a sense of independance and belonging somewhere other than a home that's 2500 miles away from where she came from.
Also, make sure you and your family get to do things together too, you and your husband spend good quality time together, and the same with your kids.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
I see things the way you do, jennybeans. In fact, I am trying to convince my mom to move in with us despite her being really advanced in years. I want to make sure nothing bad happens to her and that if she needs help, we are just nearby.
@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
1 Feb 07
My mom moved in with me seven years ago. It was tough at first trying to cope with living with mom again, lol. But it works out now as we bought a house together and she has an apartment downstairs. I think if we both didn't have our own space, there's no way it would work out as we would get on each others nerves. And at times I find it hard because she tries to step in and discipline my kids the way she thinks it's right. But for the most part, it all works out in the end and I love having my mom around again.
