Engagements - long or short?
By kbraves
@kbraves (6)
Philippines
February 1, 2007 6:29pm CST
I married my husband after going out for a year and a half. We decided were both ready to take our relationship to the next level. However, having known his family for just a short time, I am having issues with my in-laws. See they grew up in the burbs and very much old-fashioned. My parents grew up in the city and pretty much that's how i think.
Is there something wrong with short time engagement? Or is it necessary to have a long term engagement?
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6 responses
@PoeTalker (715)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I think it's important to know eachother for at least 3 years. You clearly fell in love quickly and decided you were ready, but I am more than sure you weren't. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years (living together) and Im not even engaged yet. I think I will be leaving him soon, but I did learn in these 3 years I dont really like him or his family. I think 3 years is a bench mark, its where you can tell if a relationship will work or not. Just think about it... you will spend every Christmas, Easter and Thanksgiving fighting over whose house you go too...
god I hate that.
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@hartnsoul (558)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
Jumping into marriage entails a lot of sacrifices and getting to know. Often, you'd feel that you know someone so much because you're in love with each other. But once you're hooked, a lot will change! Sometimes you think you already know but he'd react otherwise and end up being hurt. In-laws are of a different breed. Respect them but don't allow them to dictate how you will carry on.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I thought you have long engagements so you can plan a big wedding.If you are having a small weddding and you and your fiancee are ready, why wait? I hope you have a great wedding!
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@ag_abscruzmd (2283)
• United States
2 Feb 07
For me, it doesn't really matter whether I would have a short or a long engagement. As long as my fiance and I understand each other and know each other well enough to accept each other's faults, and seeing each other most possibly being together for a lifetime; then I could marry him. For me, short engagement doesn't mean a few months. It should be for 8 months to a year. Beyond that would be a long engagement for me. The latter is better for those couples who still have a lot of unresolved issues within their relationship. Great topic!
@angeljanel24 (92)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
it is preferably to have a long term engagement. knowing not just your partner but also the people around him and all the things that matter to him so that u can decide if you're ready to take into the next level of your relationship and would not regret anything because it's your own choice to be with him.
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