parents is not always right
By clarah_cille
@clarah_cille (654)
Philippines
February 2, 2007 3:59am CST
do you agree in this statement? we all know that parents always think for the best for their children but it doesn't mean that they have to be too strict. it should be balance so that a child will not be deprived his/her right to enjoy their childhood. parenting is a big responsibility, we know that. we understand that things are not that easy to handle. but sometimes they have to listen to their children sometimes because its not always that they are in the right side. there are times that they cant see that they already go beyond the border line.
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@jan1972 (80)
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2 Feb 07
As a parent it is a difficult balancing act, we all want to protect our children from the big bad world, but we also need to allow them to make mistakes in order to grow. It is so easy to get the balance wrong, either wrapping our child in cotton wool, or giving them too much freedom that it could be too dangerous.
I am as guilty as any parent of making mistakes and getting it wrong, but I have learnt over the years that I can allow the mistakes to happen in a safe controled way.
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@clarah_cille (654)
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
atleast you have learned your lesson and you have given the chance your child to understand what the world really is. you're right that we have to make mistakes to understand better not only life but also ourselves. life is really complicated and full of mysteries. you'll never stop learning unless you allow it.
@babe_kikay (19)
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
i believe as soon as the child reached their adulthood parents should allow them to think on their own with guidance of course. communication is very important to parents and child. sometimes parents should listen to what the child is saying. if the child is reasoning it doesn't mean they do not respect their parents they just want to tell something.
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@clarah_cille (654)
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
thanks for sharing your ideas here. (",)
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@sapnamaddan (427)
• India
2 Feb 07
Ya, My friend's parents think they are always right. My friend love with someone. she asked her parents but her parents said this boy is not good for u b'coz her parents said u r not young to a choose life partner but my friend love her boyfriend very much she is very serious about him and her boyfriend is very well settled in Canada but her parents thinks he is not good for my friend. I can't understand why they object.
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@clarah_cille (654)
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
well, parents is just worried about their child. maybe your friend should have introduced her bf to her parents so that her parents could evaluate the guy and will start to know the guy.
@survey_antony (219)
• India
2 Feb 07
I do agree with the statement and also would like to add that noone is always right. At times even if we know they are right, we are not ready to accept it.
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@blindedfox (3315)
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
Yes. There are times when what our parents say isn't right. The way they see things can sometimes be so different from what we think. They are relating their past experiences when they tell us something. =) But most of the time, what they say is true. But if you really think that they are on the wrong side of the boat, speak up and tell them. =)
@clarah_cille (654)
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
i agree with you bro that sometimes we really need to speak and say our side because they might realized that what we have said has sense and that they really made a mistake.
@kumaarhrd (152)
• India
3 Feb 07
what u r telling is correct. But i want to supplement that parents can have a contract upto the particular age may be upto 10
then parents should treat their children as a friend so that children can discuss their problems in a friendly manner and as a parent they can also explain to them what is good or bad for them
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@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
3 Feb 07
Yes i agree that parents are not always right but normally they are always right at times yea .... Human do make mistakes at times yea
@djbtol (5493)
• United States
3 Feb 07
Yes, I agree with you. Parents will not always be right. They are not perfect and they will make mistakes. Even so, parents are to be respected and obeyed. Certainly communication is important. If you think your parents are wrong about something, then you should respectfully make an appeal based on your understanding. Best not to demand your way, which shows no respect for their position.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
3 Feb 07
well some parents are like that i agree with you..but as children we must not disrespect them on the process coz we know that we are right on some things we believe in...i think we must prove to them that we are right in a nice way where they wont be hurt in the process...
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@shangsyndrome (814)
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
i agree to that.. parents can learn from their children too. its just that parents must admit it.
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@angelagomes77 (198)
• Singapore
3 Feb 07
everyone makes mistakes. i know i have made many mistakes with my 2 kids. but the way i see it, u cant spoon feed a child. they will make mistakes too and they will learn form them
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@adi1942 (48)
• India
3 Feb 07
i think we human being so called social animals are born and intamed in lap of parent. every parent want his child to live happy and do what they cant do in there life because of some limitations so they are too emotional to decide what there child should do...but they are not always right ...but we should not always avoid them ...respect is also made to do..
@rockbaby (805)
• Lebanon
3 Feb 07
yeah i agree, people always say listen to ur parents and stuff, i appriciate that but noone if perfect, and so are decisions sometimes, they r not perfect either, and they make mistakes, and just like the children make mistakes! sometimes they think they r right while its vice versa!
@cool1girl (248)
• India
3 Feb 07
Yes,my parents were too strict when I was small.That resulted in me rebelling a lot.Today I am no longer a rebel-I know what the reason was.......but I believe that parents should be more understanding.
@pkguptamca (57)
• India
3 Feb 07
Yes we all think that parents always think right to us.But some time due to lake of knowledge they goes wrong.It does not mean they actually want to do wrong with us.actually they do all like this As they think it as good for us.If we found any thing wrong which parents decides for us then we should discuss with them with out fighting.
@allyzha (89)
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
Man is not perfect. Our parents are humans but they try to give the best for their children but it does not necessarily folow that they are wlays right. They give advice to their children based on what they have gone through in life and it is good to listen to them - weigh them and try to follow them but if they push you to do something that is bad then why follow?
