Parents

I absolutely feel that way. There's a cycle to the way things should work. Parents take care of children, then the tables turn and chidren take care of parents. At least, that's the way it *should* be. My mother is currently taking care of her mother, who's been sick for the last several years. When / if the time comes that my parents require extra help, my sister and I will run to be of whatever help we can. I know my mother won't live with me, she wouldn't have it that way ... but I'd open my home to her in a heartbeat if she'd allow it. She took care of me, soon it'll be my turn to do it for her.

I think I will feel as though I have to help a great deal, after all they looked after me for so long, but I dont think Ill feel obliged to move in with them, I dont think thats right, ill just help them from a far.

I took care of my mom in her last days. My father had passed away long time back when I was a kid but I do remeber visiting him at the hospital. My mom raised me all alone. WHen she was sick I moved in with her. I faced lot of criticism too as after six month she rejoined her work so everyone thought she was okay but I aonly knew how tired she used to be after returning. She was working only because my brother was still studying. Someone had to pay the bills and I was with a small kid so I could not go out and work. we had a tought time then. She passed away after two years. By then my brother was three months in to his new job. I got him married to a nice girl and all. I can never forget that time. I am still blamed for negelecting my in laws for her but I am happy I did that. I do not carte what they think. If it comes to that and I have to do so for my in laws too, I will do the same thing for them too.I feel elders should be repected and taken care of.

i don't think its an obligation, but a loving thing. my dad was sick and i would get up early, drive an hour every morning to take care of him while my mom worked, then came home late at night just to get up and do it again the next day. now my dad is gone, and my mom is sick, but lives on her own. i tend to meet with her weekly and take her to breakfast, antique shopping, etc. and just spend quality time with her. when family has get togethers, i spend time with her so she isn't alone and when we all go somewhere, they might be on the 3rd ride or something, well my mom and i are still getting on our first. i take the time to spend all the time i can with her and i feel in my heart that its the right thing to do. i would like her to move in with me so i can take care of her, and she said she would if my living situation was different. so i am changing it, moving to a bigger place just so she can move in with me...they took care of us, it is only fair that we take care of them when the time comes....thats love not an obligation.

i don't feel i have an obligation. they never took care of me. i grew up with relatives, friends and in foster homes. i think they didn't want me then why should i want them to be in my life when they need me.

parents are considered as gift of nature and god.we can get any realtion if u losse it but we cant get real parents.many people are there who are neglecting this and loosing the effection of their parents,but latter they come it knew it they lost their parents.one should remember that parents are only one who are giving lives to us,making our lives,providing every thing with out any expectations.its our responsibility to take take of them in their last stages.friend ur gud enough that u are responsible but u might have taken care of them in their last stages also irrespective of in waht situation ever ur?dont worry past is pased take care keep smiling. nusrath

Yes! I live with my mother now because my father just past away, and it's killing us financially because she already spent all the insurance monies. She cut back on cleaning and more, so I have to do it. I can't imagine what it's going to be like when she gets older! But I love her and will always be here for her.

Well, for me, if my parents are sick I'd like to take care of them. Not out of obligation but because I love and care for them. For me, it's to show my gratitude as esp. my mom has given a lot of efforts and time to take care of us. Beside, I wanna spend a quality time with them too. I don't wanna regret things if either or both of them have passed away. Afterall, it was them who made me who I am today :)

Yes..its our obligation to take care of our parents when they are sick and old..because when we are young they take good care of us, mold us, teach us and love us. when time come that they need our service we should grant them with all of our heart never think that they force us to take good care of them....I think ur wrong with ur perception..! and i think ur a responsible child...youve done great with ur parents..

ofcourse u were right u did the right thing, if u think abt it they took care of us for a long time htey did everythin 4 us, so this aint a big thing. so it our responsibility to take good care of them.

If they were good to you when you are young, if you love they love you... then this question would be moot. Otherwise, it will boil down to culture, religion, peer pressure, etc.