Saying The Words " I LOVE YOU "

I still remember one of my friends experience he said: the first time I told my wife that I love her. She had tears running down her cheeks, and seeing her joy made me feel happy in turn, and encouraged me to open up even more. From that moment on, it was clear that I should make my wife happy every day. I decided to tell her that I loved her as often as possible. Every time I saw her, left her presence, ended a telephone conversation, or made love to her, I would slip in the usual, "I love you." Lately, however, I've noticed that my wife no longer appreciates the three magic words. In fact, it seems that she gets anxious or annoyed every time I say, "I love you" -- especially if it follows a screw-up like leaving the toilet seat up.

Some people say that 'Sorry' is the hardest word to say but I think that 'I love you' is equally difficult. To say it puts us in a very vulnerable position I feel because the person we say it to may use it to take advantage of us. I said that to my mom once and it took alot of courage. And she didn't know how to respond. she's never said it to me.

I had an ex once that whenever I told them off about something they would always respond with 'I love you, I love you' it became very irritating and the words meant nothing, they were empty shallow words. To be honest I have never in my life spoke those words and meant them, because to me they have to mean something and I've never found anyone that meant so much to me, I guess I never will. I have stopped believing in love, it doesn't exist for me. I love my friends and parents but of course that is a different kind of love altogether. The words shouldn't be embarrassing if you truly mean them.

I agree with you. They are very intimate and loving words, and should be used from the heart, not casual. But all kinds of people have different feelings and views. So, do only what is comfortable for you to do.

I don't have a difficult time saying "I love you" to the people whom I love. If anything it comes naturally due to the fact that I feel comfortable saying these words to these people who I care for ever so deeply. I know that when I say "I love you" to my other half that each day it comes naturally because I feel comfortable around him expressing my feelings, as well as expressing myself at the same time to. I think the time I find it difficult to say the words "I love you" is when.. It's saying it to the person for the very first time. If you & the person who you are with have never told each other that you love one another.. It can be extremely difficult to let the words come out so easily.. It makes it so very difficult because you honestly don't know how the person will end up reacting when you say these three words to them.. You don't know if they won't say it in return.. Or if they will look at you strangely or just shrug what you had said off. I know for me personally & I am sure for a large majority of others that.. This is when it becomes so difficult to say these words to someone.. If only we could all know what the other person was thinking when we utter these words to them.. I think it would come a lot easier for us.. But life is not all that easy so you are taken a chance either way.. I think each time you utter these words to another human-being that you are taking the chance that you may end up getting hurt.. Because the feelings are not returned to you once you have said them. Like you.. When someone says these words to me I want them to mean it.. I have had people tell me they love me & then there actions speak so differently.. Or they prove that they didn't mean the words shortly afterwards. I think it's important if people only say these words to another when they truly mean them.. Instead of having them be forced with no feeling behind those three words.. To me "I love you" are such powerful words & you should mean them each time you say them.. Because if you don't you are not only lying to yourself.. But your lying to the other person who may actually end up believing the lies you may be telling them. I also know I have a difficult time saying "I love you" in return to someone if they have hurt me terribly.. If someone has betrayed me or a family member has done several things to hurt me over the years.. It's difficult for a person to want to tell the person in return that they love them.. It's also very difficult to believe the words that the person is saying because of the pain they may have put you through.. Sometimes when I see the words are forced I will not say anything in return.. I am good at reading peoples expressions on there face.. And if there expressions on there face don't match up with there actions.. You just know that what they are saying is not at all true. I think it's important to really be careful of who you believe when they say these words to you.. But also who you say these words to.. As it is important to mean them when you are willing to utter them to another human-being within your life. In conclusion.. I don't find it difficult to say "I love you" to someone who I love ever so deeply.. But who I also know loves me in return as much as I love them.. But I do have a hard time when I have to say those words in return to someone for the very first time.. As you never know what there reaction may be.. But also it's difficult to say "I love you" to someone who has hurt you terribly.. Because it is rather difficult to believe someone when all they've done is caused you pain all of your life. I think like you.. It is important to mean those words before just deciding to utter them to just anyone! . . Thanks for allowing me to share! xx

Very good question! As many would say, "Action speaks louder than words." When it's easy for someone to say "I love you," it could just be a spur-of-the-moment thing but not really heartfelt. I think "I love you" is the hardest thing to say. "I'm sorry" is even easier for me to express. Before saying that you love someone, you must have thought about it for a long time enough to be really sure because the words could have serious implications. Thus, I think those who are having a difficult time expressing their love are more meaningful (because their actions speak of their love). My advice is look into the eyes of the person saying this to you. The eyes will tell if the words are sincere or not.

well if this is to a girl that i like and she's not my girlfriend then yes, i am too shy to say them but once i have a girlfriend i am not embarassed to say it. I agree that these words are important and not just meaningless words and that they should only be said when realy ment.

Yes, it is uneasy for me to say it, even to my girl friends and family, the hardest was to my boyfriends, unfortunately at the times when it was most needed to say =). My credo was Action Speaks Louder Than Words back then. Now, it's quite different. Action Speaks Louder WHEN Accompanied by Words. So, now it's Do What You Say. Because I've learnt that to love is not just a feeling, but a choice to do so. We have to say it to our loved ones because we indeed have to commit to do it.

Not at all - i'm never embarassed to admit it if i love someone. I don't mind saying it over and over again - sometimes the other person can get tired of hearing. LOL. One should not be shy to speak his/her heart out.

Yes, I think next to 'sorry', 'I love you' is the next hardest word/s to say, or at least they are equally difficult. I think the only time I said those 3 words was to my mom who felt so awkward when she heard it that she was speechless. I have not said it to even the guys whom I dated before, even those whom I went steady with. Perhaps the relationship had never gone to that level where I could say and really mean it. Abusing these 3 words is a shame because it holds a world of meaning in it if it is said sincerely.

Saying I love you to the person you truly love is really embarrassing. We are afraid that she/he might reject us. To make it safer, I let her know trough action first, and when i feel that she felt the same, I will tell her that I Love her.

Hi, agree with because many people say this words "I love you" as though nothing was. I in truth have only pronounced them to very special friends, family and my boyfriend!

saying i love you is not an embarrassin thing.. it's a good way of showing your emotions to someone..

I think you need to find the right person. The rest is just, the rest. :)

I would say aloud to all my loved ones.

I would say it aloud to all of my loved one.