Single mothers,have you ever been viewed as a lower class person?

People see only what they want to see. I was an 18 year old widow with a child and they assumed that I had my daughter out of wedlock and that she had a deadbeat dad. The ones that actually came up to me stating their opinion of my sins usually left feeling ignorant and embarrassed. I was a single mom, but not by choice. People sometimes just have to judge others in order to make themselves feel better. As my daughter got a little older, she would tell them real quick that her daddy was in heaven. Can you say "open mouth and insert foot"? My advice to you is simple. Do not let the rash judgements of ignorant people cause you one moment's upset. Be proud of yourself and your child. I cannot remember where I first saw this quote but it has become one that I try to live by now: "Be who you are and say what you feel... Because those that matter... don't mind.. And those that mind.. don't matter." I hope this helps you in your life as much as it did me in mine.

I don't like when people do that. But we do live in a society that judges. I had my child out of wedlock also, but later got married. I was never single, so I can't imagine how hard that is. If it's hard with two adults, I'm sure it's twice as hard with just one. And I think every baby has a father, but society says if you're not married they don't have a father. It's the mothers and fathers choice to be in or out of that childs life. I so do not think that single moms are flirts, they might be a bit more insecure without that father figure and do crazy things. I am againist abortion aslo. I have an aunt who had two abortions within the first 10 years of their marriage because they said they weren't ready! But now she has two kids and it seems like she still isn't ready. I think they waited too long to have kids that she didn't have that nurtuing feature. I had my daughter at 19, and I was very mature and we love and enjoy spending as much time as we can withour daughters. I've seen through out all my family members... the ones who had kids before 25 seem more happier and enjoy their kids more than the ones who waiting past their 30's to have kids!! The only problem is that the people who are having kids in their 20's have to be more fiancially knowledable of finances and much more including educating theirselves about the next biggest step in their life... Getting a MORTGAGE!! My husband and I are very into our finances together! So that is another reason that single mothers should not be classified as lower class because they have to work twice as hard to maintain a sable income in the family.

I am also a single mother by choice and i am no where mear a dirty girl ... LOL! I have had one boyfriend for a period of two months in over 3 years! In my opinion a single mother is not really single as she has more than enough on her plate with her kids. A single mother should be looked up to as most of teh time we have to be a mother as well as trying to be a father at times as well!! I for one am proud to be a single mother that is waiting for real love!! I need someone in my life that is going to be there for my daughters for my daughters and not just for me!!

For me, I usually admire single moms because they are so courageous so raise their children even with the absence of a man. This only shows that a woman can survive even without the help of a man even though it is hard, it is still possible.

It is actually a form of discrimination, viewing single mothers as lower class people. In fact, it all depends on the way this person would drive her way through life. Most single mothers that I know of are tough women who will do everything to survive... and that alone would qualify them to be the best parents in the world. a mother and a Father in one. To all single moms...congratulations for being strong. Do all the best you can for your child or children. Prove the world of its perception. You can be good if you want yourself to be.

being a single mom should not be judged. instead, they should be appreciated because they chose to have the child than having an abortion even if there's no father who'll be there for their child. don't you know that it takes a lot of guts and sacrifices to take a child by yourself without the partner who supposedly will support you in everything? im really impressed to all single moms out there who were able to raise their child well and never care what other people would say about their situation. every man has its own trials to face in life and should be strong enough to conquer the fear.

im not a single mother, but there is no way i would judge any person for being a single parent, as my sister is one and there are so many reasons for why the parents could be separated.

Back almost 14 years ago my sister met a man and they eventually got engaged. About a month or so later she discovered she was pregnant. She told him and he hightailed it for the hills. We didn't see him again for a very, very long time. It was a struggle for my sister and I have helped her in raising my neice who I love dearly. It isn't easy being a mother let alone a single one. Many people assume things, we've had it happen and some times it is very cruel. I know my sister wonders at times if she has done right by her daughter but you know I cannot picture her not in our lives. She's done us both a lot of good.

That's a load of crap! People should be more sensitive with single moms. They don't know the real story and don't they even think that these women didn't chose to be single. Who would want to raise a kid by her own? People should stop being judgemental, instead they should concentrate on their own lives.

i know that many people think like that but you must not give them attention and be proud of what you are doing

single moms are cool! people don't have the right to judge them. it only shows that they are strong because they survive without partners. even me myself wants to be a single mom when I'm ready and stable. so, don't feel guilty!

Not all single moms have children out of wedlock..Some agrees doing it w/consent(from parents)to leave the guy.. maybe because they are still too young to raise a family on thier own..or probably that thier choice is like yours.I do admire single moms a lot.There is nothing wrong raising your child alone than beeing w/ the irresponsible father you call??? none of the sigle moms that i know started having baby and regret it at the age of 40s.. very rare mostly that happens when you started to have a baby at young days unexpected...

i have friends who are single moms and they were able to raise their children well so i really admire their guts. they might have committed a mistake in the past (such as falling in love with the wrong guy) but the fact that they were able to stand up again after such mistakes makes them admirable. i think people who look down on women who had children out of wedlock are plain narrow-minded. none of us has the right to judge other people.

helo greet to recognize to me,.. remember, every sure woman have instinct to mother....

Well Im a male but I know exactly what you mean because my mother raised us by herself. She was alot like you and decided to raise us on her own but was judged by many just because she was alone raising us. She did a great job raising us and never asked for help and yet people still judge. Oh well I know she did a job job and I dont think it really matters if a woman is married or seperated I think they can raise kids just as well as any other mother.

i had a friend. yes, she was viewed as a low class person.

i am not a single mother i just want to comments about that topic. i view single mothers as a strong mother and i salute for them because they are very strong enough to face that problem even if they dont have any partners in life but still they strive their best to take care with the children and love their kids without their husband or without the help or their husband. so single mothers keep up the good work. i salute you all.

I became a single mom by choice. I was raised in a good Catholic family and nobody thought I'd end up unmarried with a child. It was hard at first, but I faced the world head up, for I know that there's nothing to be ashamed of. I have a beautiful and smart kid who's the love of my life, and if given the chance to go back and change anything I did in the past, I wouldn't change a thing. I'm very thankful that God has blessed me with a true bundle of joy. I never thought I'd be happier and more fulfilled than I ever was in my entire life. The whole experience made me stronger and more resilient. Don't care about what other people may think or say. What's important is to focus on how to make your life and your child's future better. Smile! Always think that God has something beautiful in store for the both of you. :)

I'm not a single mom but I applaude you for your decision to keep your baby. I know a lot of girls will just have an abortion as the easy way out. I admire you for taking up the responsibilities. I know it's not easy. I mentor a 15 year old single mom. She goes to school and has to take care of her baby. All she wants now is to get a good education, get a good job and be able to provide for her baby. I think that takes a lot of courage and commitment.

im still single and i have a friend who is a single mom. i admire her because she has a strong personality. she raised her son very well. Her son is smart and respectful to others. single mom should not be judged only because they choose the wrong guy. i guess it is better to be a single mom than having a husband who always give you headache.