when is the right time/age to get married?

That is truly a personal question that only you can answer. I've been married for 13 years and I've watched other couples go through divorces. I knew the day they were married which ones would make it and which ones wouldn't and I haven't been wrong yet. My best advice to you and you may think this is crazy, but sit down and ask your parents what they think of the person. They know you better than anyone and they would not steer you wrong. Friends get caught up in the love of it all. White dresses, bridesmaids, parties, honeymoons, etc.. For the most part it's not easy to look beyond the wonderful to see the things that might not be so great. For people that are really young...18-25. They haven't figured out yet what they want to do. Most of the time they aren't even aware of it. A person doesn't usually become who they are truly meant to be until they are about 25-28. For some..it's even longer than that. At 20 I had dreams of the white picket fence, I had my three children named, I knew where I wanted to be when I was 30 and nearing old age, I just had no idea who I would marry. At 40..I am a completely different person. I'm bored with conventional life. Fortunately my husband is too. We're planning in taking a whole new direction in life in the next year. If I had married the man I was dating at 22, I would be very unhappy and probably not know it. He's a wonderful man, owns his own company, just bought a new home and we had a great 5 year run. But he's not adventerous and he's still doing all the same things he was when I last saw him 13 years ago. My point is be objective. Look beyond the dreams of the wedding day and 20 years into the future. Ask yourself if you would take care of him if he were injured and could no longer work. Ask yourself if the two of you were alone for months on end, would he be enough and how does he feel about that with you. I met my husband while dating the other man. We were at the end and I knew it, but I was still hanging on. Chris came into my life and I barely noticed him at first, then he asked me out and I thought "why not". I married him 6 months later. I knew, my friends knew, my family knew..everyone knew without a doubt that he was the one. 13 years later I still see him as I did then. I compare all other men to him and not one has measured up. He is my soul mate. He is the man that I want my little girls to marry. He's the man I want our sons to become. When he is everything to you and not just "most of it" then he's the one. That one..is so worth waiting for.

I think it depends on the person and the situation. I was married the first time when I was 24. I thought I knew what I wanted in life and thought this guy was my knight in shining armor. I asked for a divorce on our one year anniversary. It's a long story, but he wasn't who I thought he was and I was still becoming who I am today. I got remarried last March when I was almost 32, and it was a big leap for me, my first marriage was so terrible. But I grew up, met someone who takes me for me and we have a great relationship. It might not be the most romantic relationship ever, but I can honestly say that I married my best friend. And I think tahat's what counts.

for me it doesn't the age. i think it's mor on emotional and spritual maturity of a person.