SO WHAT if my boyfriend is 4 years younger than I am!!! (ARRRGH!!!!!)
@song_of_serenity (23)
United States
February 3, 2007 1:40pm CST
Ugh, some PEOPLE! My boyfriend is only four years younger than I am, and the way some people react, you'd think I commited a sin worthy of DEATH! I even get the stupid "Demi Moore/Ashton Kutcher" refferences from family members! Honestly, it's sad because one of the people commenting was a male who is 37 with a girlfriend who JUST turned 21 years old! I asked him about it and he kept quiet for a bit and then shrugged and said "That's just how it is. Women need REAL men to take care of them, not these little boys."
*PULLS HAIR OUT* My boyfriend is sweeter, more mature, and more PROVIDING than many of the guys my own age and older! So stop chalking it up to age!! Love is love. I wish people would stop gasping when the female happens to be older...even by only a few years! GIVE ME A BREAK! :[
Do any of you women have younger boyfriends/husbands? How about you guys, do you have older girlfriends/wives? If the age difference is 10 years or younger, DID IT REALLY MATTER? If it is more than 10 years, did it impact the relationship? And how did people react? Thank you so much!
Discuss!
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@silkyt34 (324)
• United States
3 Feb 07
i'm with you on this age is just a number and love is love.. congratulations you have someone who loves you and you love them and as fr being "real" man.. believe me i have met alot of men who are older and claim to be "real" men and they arent.. your age doesnt make you a real man
@song_of_serenity (23)
• United States
3 Feb 07
*sigh* I can't tell you how many girls I've seen who get hurt over and over by an older guy and wonder where they went wrong. "I thought he'd be different because he's older!" Thank you so much for your reply.
@gesges (1)
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28 Oct 10
HI ,i have the same problem ,if you call it a problem ,,we met at my friends anniversary party ,he is 3 years older than me ,i am 26. The problem is when we met he told me he is 25 ,i said ok ,age is just a number ,and i have a baby face ,and i can do crazy stuffs thought i am a doctor !! ,,the second problem is he is from my university where i graduated from ,,and all the guys had crush on me ,and talk on my back !! ,but we had never ever met before that party ,at first i refused him ,but he kept coming back ,so i said what the hell he is nice , i like him ,,,and all the good things you want in a boyfriend ,,,but after a while ,i found that he is not 25 ! he is 23 !! ,,,i was shocked not because he was 3 years younger because he lied to me ! ,,he said he lied because he wanted me so much that if he said the truth i would definitely say no ! ,and at that time it was so hard for me to let him go ,,i was in love ,,and i am in love ,,,we have a very good relationship ,,,we don't pay attention to what other people think ! many even think we are at the same age or he is older than me !!,,,but the only thing that bugs me so much is that i want to settle down ,, i wanna a man for the rest of my life ,but he is not ready to take that big step ,,whenever we start to talk seriously ,it ends up doing crazy things ,,it frightens me so much ,that after all it would be a meaningless relationship ,i know there is not a happy ending for all stories ,,but i am tired of being heart broken !
@hopefoo (1145)
• Malaysia
3 Feb 07
They're just not used to it. Older men, younger women is the norm. Don't worry about it, I mean..age is but a number. dig? Besides, who are they to comment on your relationship? As long as you're happy together then that's all that matters. My bf is 9 years older than I am and we get along fine, though some have given negative feedbacks. :) keep your head up girl!
@elianfairy (1)
• Brunei Darussalam
2 Nov 08
My mom asked me how can i hd a relationship with a guy that is older than me..i was so sad to hear abt it.I told her, it doesn't matter as long as we love each other..
Actually, this is my first tym having a relationship so im kinda stuck a little..haha.Meaning..i just had a relationship with my bf who's 3 years younger than me(1st BF).ehee..im 21 and he's 18.we started relationship on oct 11 2008..
can you guys give me some advice on this new relationship??coz im new..ehee..
sorry if im kinda annoying..ehee..
thanks..=)
• Canada
4 Jan 09
don't feel bad I'm 20 and he's 16. hope thing are going good and to you to fairy girl!
@starlight4 (1)
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9 Jul 10
Hi, I see this question was posted a long time ago buuuuuttt im still going to voice my opinion :) I think that all of these people that see you with your boyfriend may be (subconsciously/or even consciously) jealous deep inside that you have found an amazing relationship with someone, and they are looking for something to mock about it. Well, I say that since women have equal rights to men, if men being older is the norm, then women being older shud be the norm too! Afterall, its only 4 years and you shouldn't be stressed about it! Enjoy your life, go crazy, have adventures and live life to the fullest :)
Hope everything is going great for you, you seem like a really loyal person, esp to your bf, im sure he appreciates it! :D
