Relationship Stress Relief

a very nice way is spending time watching movie, reading to him/her, helping her in cooking, cleaning the house together, or just hanging out on the sofa talking nonsense......if u cant talk to your partner then u canot talk to anyone

I think this is a wonderful and useful listing Rainbow! Thank you for sharing it. I especially agree with the last one, "laugh a lot" if you can do that I think relationship stress would be greatly eliminated. Humour they say is the best medicine. Cheers!

The biggest stress relief we have worked out is that any friend or relative who is a prize pain in a proverbial region is visited at their home as often as is possible and does NOT bring their negativity into our home. We then use the drive back to discharge any negativity and have a good moan so that by the time we are back here we are speaking to each other again.

Everyone needs some "me" time and by that I believe that we all need some time which is ours solely to do what we want. It can be as little as 10 minutes but that time is when we can do what we want, and if sitting on the toilet is your thing, go for it. Alternatively, it might just be 10 minutes relaxing in a warm bath but it can help relieve the stress of what is going around. Recharge the batteries so to speak and once again return to the fray around us all the time. Be honest and open, and if we are feeling tired then the rest of the family should be told this. Children will remember the fun things and not whether or not the home was always spotless, so make some fun time for the family when everyone can relax and enjoy being together. Remember to tell those who are special to you, family as well as friends that they are an important part of your life and that you love them. Make a date with your husband/wife and go out together every so often, even once a month. It might be that money is short so pack up a picnic and go down to the park or somewhere like that. Have someone else, like grandparents, look after the children for the day. Arrange to share children with friends, i.e. one day and night a fortnight they are at your house and the next fortnight they spend with friends. This gives each couple time alone with their husband/wife, without having children around. And finally I agree that we should laugh a lot - remember how uninhibited laughter was when we were children. Try to relive those days, even for just a little while as it will help. :)

What a great idea. Ok how about trying to turn a negative situation into a positive one. If the babies been crying all day think how wonderful it will be when the baby finally goes to sleep and peace and quiet reigns.

After nearly 18 yrs in the same relationship I definately need some me time. This does however cause conflict if my partner feels I am neglecting him. We have such different interests its rare that we stay in the same room for too long. I love sport, he hates it. He plays guitar, I am on the laptop. And the fight for the remote control is a constant battle when I don't win, lol My kids are growing up now and prefer to be with their mates more than us, which is fine. My daughter went to her first adult nightclub on Firday and enjoyed every minute. She is only young once so I want her to enjoy herself with her mates as I know she will always be there and more so when she gets older. My son is so obsessed with graffiti I always have to talk to him between drawings, but it has given him an oppotunity to express himself, as usually he is such a closed shop. We still have our get togethers and have a real laugh, which I love. We have quite a healthy balance and jealousy has never been a part of our relationship, which is such a blessing. We also go out with friends and enjoy each others company which is good. Although we still have our major arguments over the most pathetic things, usually my partner swearing too much and me watching too much sport and staying on the laptop. You have many happy years ahead of you with your young children. Treasure every moment it goes soooo fast!! Enjoy.

yes, of course at last it is home.

Unfortunatly no one got the time for all of that in this day and age...

Thanks for the tips. It really is very positive and I hope I can practise them too. However, since I am living alone I have much time for privacy, to think, to relax and do my own things. But what I can apply is to remember to laugh a lot and buy people a present for no reason.

Stress in relationship may come due to many reasons. I would first suggest that first identify the cause of stress, what are the reasons that the relationship is sressed. then address it. Firstly definitely it is something to do with someone else... so try and talk with that person ,raise your concern and talk it out... many times it is found that it could be due to misunderstanding or a particular viewpoint.so once that is cleared then evrything becomes normal. But sometimes if it is due to a genuine concern and you were right then again must talk to the person concerned.. explain that you are getting effected by this and probably you need to take some corrective steps too. you could take one step forward and the other person can salso do the same. And most impoprtantly keep a positive attitude.. and be happy.. that makes all the difference.

I find spending time with my husband takes away lots of stress. Also taking a long very hot bath really works wonders. I also listen to relaxation tapes before I fall asleep and they make me feel great the next morning. If you have stress it is sure nice to find ways to get rid of it.

thanks for the advice my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years and have had may problems along the way we thought about counceling but it is too expensive so i will try these techniques and see if it works

I think one of the best things to do for a relationship...is to develop interests outside of the relationship. Not just time alone, but a new hobby, or taking lessons of some sort, or joining a club or a sports team. It will give you things to talk about outside each other, develops you as an individual person, and for me at least, just getting out and doing something with other people outside my usual social group helps me feel happier, which makes my relationship better.