What am I looking for?
By ZowieR
@ZowieR (940)
Canada
February 3, 2007 11:13pm CST
In my relationship I seem unhappy. I feel invisible and as if I don't get very much attention or conversation, or respect. When we fight I feel as if I am waiting for somthing to pop out of thin air and straighten thingsout, and they usually end in us forgetting were mad and going on with life.. What am I missing from a normal relation ship? Dose any one know what I'm looking for, what do I want from him? Its like he can do no right, but if that were so I wouldnt love him. I just lost my job and our rent went up another $150 a month, so I feel like I am not contributing to anything, the house, the bills, the relationship, the chorse cause I'm depressed... Any advice, or insight into a normal life????
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4 responses
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
27 Feb 07
first of all i am sorry to hear you are feeling like this
you have to check and the problem is he or is it you?
i understood by what you wrote that your self esteem is down..you lost your job and everything but
i think first of all you have to ask yourself what do you want?
afterworth you have to ask yourself what do you want from the men you love, is he giving this to you? or why do you love him
but the main thing is to start working on yourself by deciding what you want in life after that you'll see it probably will be more easier to solve the rest.
hope i've been helpful:)
@MySpot (2600)
• United States
26 Feb 07
You are probably feeling inadequate about not contributing. Depression sucks and can really take over your life if you let it. You need to do things that make you feel good about yourself. Even if you aren't 'feeling it', you should start on your housework, especially if you are home a lot more. You will feel more accomplished and a cleaner environment may lift your depression some too.
You're responsible for your own happiness/feelings, not him. That is too much burden to bear really.
According to Dr. Phil, a good indicator of a healthy relationship isn't whether you fight or not but how it ends.
@edigital (2709)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I think you are looking for independence, consolation, real love and normal due peace in mind which is away from you. But this is hard to advice how you will get it or how you will get rid from your misfortune, the only adivce is what cannot be cured must be endured and to have patients as patients is bitter but its fruit is sweet, so one day you may get sweet fruit of your patients.
