What people say behind you back
By emquinsat
@emquinsat (1058)
Philippines
February 4, 2007 4:56am CST
I've been in the comfort room cubicle once and I over heard 2 girls comingin talking about my friend. I kept quite and evesdrop to the conversation. The had been saying a lot of nasty things about her. As the conversation went on, my name got mentioned. They said that they pity my for being my friend's friend coz they say they think I dont deserve to be associated to someone like her. It pains me to hear it coz I know for a fact that my friend intimates other people but when you get to know her she is really nice. And i felt so guilty that I didn't come out to defend my friend.
What do you do if you were me? If you have been in this situation? Would you just let it go?Or are you going to confront those people?
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4 responses
@adidas7878 (1891)
• United States
5 Feb 07
i would say just let it go to, but when they ever talk to you about it stick up for your friend, and tell them she is a really a nice person, they just have to get to know here better, dont get upset all about it, who knows maybe in the furture the all of you can be friends
@emquinsat (1058)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
I really hope we can all be friends. Coz some of those people talking about my best friend are also friends of mine. I hope they could get along fine so we can hang out together.
@ShadyGrove (996)
• United States
4 Feb 07
I would just let it go as well. You heard what you heard and you already know how your friend does intimidate others.
You may want to try and help others see your friend in a new way. Talk about your friend and what she does or how she is that you like her so much -- let them see another side of her.
Also you may want to help your friend see just how others are affected by her behavior. Maybe just give an example when she does something that hurts or bothers another person so you can give direction right when it happens.
Another thing to keep in mind is how you are being perceived -- it might be time to change the way you and your friend are seen before the talk gets more personal or spreads.
Good luck!
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@emquinsat (1058)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
Thank you so much for the very good advice. I would do what you said. I think its really nice for others to know her and me as well. I would also tell her of how others perceive her and we wouild do changes if needed.
@SignMe (1031)
• India
4 Feb 07
I suggest you just let it go. Everybody just talks behind the back. Noone can stop them.
But all that you can do is just ignore them.
In your case you better try to make them understand that your friend is not like that. It will be good for all :)
@emquinsat (1058)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
Yeah. I'll do that. I just hope they get thet chance to know her first before judging her. She is someone I consider as a true friend.
