What would you do if you found your partner in bed with someone else?

if the guy is fooling around after two months only of marriage..it means obviuosly that he does not love his wife..but unless we know the whole story we cannot give a proper evaluation of the situation..how is he with his wife..do they argue alot..does she neglect him etc..all these details we have to know first before we can come to a solution..

Is he still alive??I know myself and my temper all to well...and I would not have been able to just walk away from that. But anyways....the best thing you can do is offer some moral support.There is really not a lot more you can do at this point.Tell her that you feel sad for her and that you share her hurt and that you will be there for her no matter what. Give her a big hug from me and tell her I wish her the best!!!

I don't know for sure but if it was me I think I would kick him out. If you can't trust your partner,(and obviously she can't) I can't see how they can make it work, esp if its only been 2 mos. of marriage. She is lucky to have a caring friend like you.

Kidnap him and go to Texas to kill him. In Texas, they go a little easier on you when you kill your partner because of adultery or plain old cheating. : ) By the way, I don't have partner right now, and the above could be a reason why!

That is so hard, I have been thier, I cought my first huband with another woman. There isnt anything easy about it. She will definately be beter off without him. I hope she will be able to recover from this swiftly.

he's a b*stard!!! that must hurt a lot for your friend. how is she now? if i were her, i would leave him! two months into married life and he can't hold his horses? there's no more room for trust and sensitivity, so buh-bye to the relationship. im hurting for her so much now. my god. but of course, she must assess the situation too, maybe she has some incapacities on her side too. but whatever, marriage is not for cheating.

That is sad. 2 months, and he's already in bed with someone else? Yuck. Sounds like a wonderful guy. Can she still get an annulment? That'd be the first thing on my to-do list! She doesn't need to put up with his cheating ways for the rest of her life.

oh god this is bad. in today's fast world there are no moral checks on partners but definitely there is a moral check on husbands and wives. she should be in a mental shock and worry. as this time she needs good advicer and good friend on whose shoulders she can cry. any advice at this point of time is wrong. because she would be in a state of depression. i donot even approve of break-up at this moment. it does not mean i support her husband in this action. it is totally immoral and unethical. if u r weak between ur legs such sins can happen again and again. but we need to dig a bit more deep. life gives everyone a second chance. if it is worth giving then there is no poing denying a second chance. every sinner has a future and every saint a past

that was really bad to see a life partner with someone else in the bed.this i cant afford and i would have reacted somewhat in a cruel mentality.

whew...just 2mos?!..what an A@#$$#@ ...anyway, in this kind of situation there is always 2 ways to deal with it...it can be that your friend loves this guy so much and she may be able to give him another chance cos you know..there's still those woman who believes that "love conquers all" (im not one of them..LOL) and there's this another side of the story that she may be able to end that story of her and start anew, just leave him or file an annulment of some sort, you know that is a criminal case and they can both get imprisoned for that...meaning the hubby and the mistress...which i'll prob do had it happened to me

She should leave him, no question. The guy even had the gall to bring the girl to their house and do it there. Does she want to sue? She can sue him for adultery because he brought the girl to their conjugal home. As foe her, I think it's not the end of the world for her. There are a lot of guys out there that are far more deserving than her cheating husband.

What an awful thing to walk in on. Were there problems before they got married. There must have been some signs that this man has problems. I think you need to be a friend and just listen to what she has to say and help her decide what to do.

We'll i'll be mad. That would be my first reaction. I will not go back to my house for a while. Maybe I'll check-in in a hotel and give myself time to think. When my mind is set and I can think normally again, I'll get back home and talk to my wife in a civilized manner. If she doesn't love me anymore then there's nothing i can do.

i can just imagine how miserable your friend is right now. I feel for her, but you can cheer her up by trying to motivate her to get even. She can file a case against them, and she can even ask for a money as a moral damaged he did to your friend. With that she can put that jerk behind bars, so that he would know that he betrayed the wrong woman. Get even by getting what is important to him. He's freedom.

Oh my god! poor girl i wish i could also give her a shoulder to cry on! she has to leave him because only after 2 months together he already cheated on her! he shouldnt have married her if he wants to play around with his D***! i hate men who cheats on their wives! that's one of the reason why i havent said YES to my boyfriend even though we have a child together! she needs a friend more than anything now so be strong for her! i know she would cry alot for the next days so have patience with her. it is so hard to find your husband with another woman in your own bed!!! if that happened to me ill definitely going to cut his D*** and stick on the wall for display!

the heck i gonna kill them both...! they deserved it..

I think there really are no words that can comfort her. It's your companionship and feeling for her are what matter most to her at this point. Don't push her to talk if she doesn't feel like talking about that incident or how she feels. She'll come around. I would definitely suggest yoga.Bikram yoga or otherwise known as hot yoga cleanses the mind ( www.bikramyoga.com ). And besides the difficult postures will temporarily remove your friend's attention from her hurt emotions.

if my partner is in bed with someone else than i will break my relationship with her .............not that i hate her but for that she likes another person

I would definitely leave my husband. It is bad to find out someone has cheated on you, but to walk in on them while in the process...that's an image you will not forget. I feel awful for your friend. Just be her shoulder to cry on and a good listener for her. She is going to have to work out a lot of things.

This is a very emotional time to make a decision. Be a good listener. Sometimes you can make a person feel they only have one option. Thats not always the answer for them. I encouraged a friend of mine to leave her husband under similar circumstances I couldnt see any other option. Eventually with time and a lot of patience she healed her marriage and at the moment is very positive about her relationship. It wouldnt have been the answer for me but I can see its working for her. Its wonderful your friend has such a caring person to comfort her stay in there.