we finally talked!!

Why would you be expecting a proposal? It sounds as if he has changed his mind and simply doesn't want to go into what he's thinking while you are physically present, but I could be wrong. To expect a proposal sounds as if you are waiting for a rewarad for good behaviour. I always tell people to stop expecting things and just have th relationship. If a fellow wants to go further he will speak up. If you need more commitment then you can date other people.

I agree with sagemother. You just had an opportunity to "discuss" things but it sounds as though the discussion was one sided. At this stage of your relationship there should be complete openness and honesty between you. He has you dangling and that must be very uncomfortable for you. I'd advise you to cut the rope and stand on your own two feet. I feel he is withholding himself from you and you need to step back and truly evaluate this relationship unemotionally. Your friends here (well...me) will be here for you if you need them. Good luck.

just be patient, he will ask you once he gets over the feelings of "Oh gee this will be forever" My now hubby did kinda similar thing to me and it was ages after we decided that we were going to get married that he finally asked me. The whole reason was that the jeweller took longer to make my ring than he had expected, he ended up asking me without the ring and then i got it later. We were married in october last year. Just be patient it will happne! Bevst of luck to you and yours.

I've never been in this position, but I have been in situations where something has been weighing on my mind and it eats me up inside until I finally discuss it and get it cleared out of the way. I'm glad you were able to discuss this with your boyfriend and that you feel better about it. Perhaps he is looking for the exact right moment to propose :)

Yes I hae It sucks doesn't it? I guess we have to wait until they are ready! My fiancee proposed finally on a cruise to mexico, I was singing on the ship and afterwards he came up in front of everyone and proposed! It was great! we got married last april, be patient It'll come!

Does anyone know what is the real meaning of the word "LOVE".Is it a game,or is it true affection,or is just physical lust,I really do not know.In my college days I used to love a Girl,atleast I think I did.We spent like one year togather,and after that I really felt this immense attraction towards her,like whenever I didn't used to think of her even then she was in my thought,but trully speaking I never knew what she felt or thought.About 2yrs after,walking on the same street with her,drinkin the same cup of coffee and sharing as much time possible,I really wanted to be with me all my life and I lost my patience and I thought I should propose her,may be she was waiting for this moment all the time,may be wanted something more from me,and then without thinkin anything I took the plunge and I uttered the words "I love you".I got the worst shock of my life - "Thank you for loving me.But I could go no further with this relationship with you",she said.I was heart broken,but couldn't figure out WHY?WHY?WHY?

as for me, i had turned down three marriage proposals. i was already in the right age when i got those proposals but i felt like i wasn't prepared yet to be a wife and a mom. so, better not to get into much responsibility which i know i can't handle yet during those years. now, i am 28. my boyfriend and i are talking about getting married one day. no grand and specific plans yet but we are getting there slowly. as for you, it's better that you have opened up. now, atleast, you feel better. maybe your boyfriend has better plans for you two. or maybe, he wanna surprise you one day when you least expect it that's why he did not give you any answer last night. but if you both feel you love each other, don't feel so bad about it. believe in your boyfriend. he's just looking for the perfect time to propose to you. and when that time finally comes, you'll be the happiest woman on earth!

any ways congrats that you had told your boy friend about your love and wait until tomorrow

I don't think it is that he doesn't want to, but he already has it all, know what I mean? My husband and I were together for five years before getting married. We had already had a daughter, been living together, bought a house. We were already going through the motions, so the actual marriage was just a formality for our families to join in on our union to become officially a married couple. It could be simply that he may not know how to approach you to propose to you, if you say he isn't romantic. Heck, my husband isn't all that romantic, either, so I can completely relate! He may simply feel he has it all, so why rush it. And although it may be different for you on your side because you want to make it all official, it may just happen when it happens. If you pressure him, he may never do it. Besides, getting engaged and getting married is no guarantee to a successful and happy life together. Today's society knows all too well about that.

wel..good for you..:)

make love

YES! I dated the same guy throughout high school and the year I went to college directly after. I kept waiting for a proposal. He did once, and then said he'd changed his mind, he wasn't ready. When I realized that he wasn't in the same place I was, and didn't want to make that lifelong commitment, I broke things off. I was tired of wasting my time. I still wonder how he is sometimes and what he's doing now. But I would have never met my DH if I'd stayed with him.

I'm glad to hear that, Allways know, that when you heve a problem you have to face it and not to avoid it. To defeat your fear you heve to become fear and get along with it.

It's very easy to get frustrated with the whole marriage thing, but it is also better to not get married for the wrong reasons. I was engaged once and have been weighing the idea of marriage with my current girlfriend. Marriage doesn't scare me...losing half of what I have earned (assets: car, house, retirement etc) in a divorce does. That's the worst case scenario, and you might want to talk to him about what he really is afraid of.

He does not have to propose I think.You should put pressure on him to marry you because after all it cannot go on for long, the committment should be there otherwise no relationship lasts for long.

Well, you probably remember me from answering your discussion before when you told us that he was probably waiting for your birthday. I was the person that has been with my partner for 16 years, has seven children we are raising, and we are never going to be married. I have talked to him about it. But like you, I didn't get anywhere. LOL Hey, he could be trying to plan something really nice. So, either be patient and wait...or be untraditional and get him a ring and ask him to marry you. LOL

this is cool. i am happy for you. i hope you will get what you want from him. good luck.

No I have never been in a situation like this sorry but how long have you been in this relationship and why would you think that your boyfriend was supposed to propose to you at Christmas time, when someone asks us to marry them it does not have to be a sugnificant time of the year he a man wants to propose he will do it when he is ready.

its good to let anything that keeps bugging in our mind ..and in your case you have succeeded in doing so...mine was so simple..im a man and im the one who propose to her my wife about marriage and she readily agreed so its not really a problem to me..it went well in my part...

one time in the whole life everyone have to face the problems like this this situation is the dramatic situation in everybodies life.......... congrach to u for ur new life