Feel like I am dipping into depression mode. Read and Help?
By michele609
@michele609 (1687)
United States
February 4, 2007 2:47pm CST
I am a 23 year old female that has many goals that i was to achieve in life. Thats the good part. Well anyway I have 2 wonderful children which are 6 years old. As you may figure once you seen my age and their age that I was a young mother. I have always wanted to become a RN which is a Register Nurse. It takes about 2 year full-time to accomplish an Associates Degree . Well I have to work full-time to take care of my children and my mother is having a hard time keeping a job, so all the slack is left on me. I am right now a Medical Assistant which toke me 14 months to do. I am happy with what i do but it is not my dream.I have been thinking about taking classes part-time and so I had started researching and found that because of my job hours that I would have to go to school at night, and then no one wants to babysit , even though I am paying all the bills when their are 3 0ther adults in the house. So what does everyone think, should I just throw away my dreams or hold off on them for awhile. I fell like I am not in control of my life and I am not getting anwhere with it. Help!!
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@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
4 Feb 07
Ok, my idea is to talk to the school you would be attending and finding out if they have child care services there or know of people or companies that do. With taking the classes there is often something the counselors can do. Have you spoken with them? Not sure why the family is not supporting you. If we lived near you we would help you for sure. You are in control of your life and now you must tend to business. You are the one that will succeed in taking care of your children and building a beautiful life with them. Good luck and email me here anytime.
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@michele609 (1687)
• United States
4 Feb 07
Thank you very muh for you consideration. I wish you lived by me too. it is very hard to trust anyone these days!
@AyaMiami (95)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I agree with Willowlady's suggestion. Definitely check with the college for child care. Sometimes they have a daycare on campus because it helps students persue their child development degrees. Also, perhaps you could move into college housing? I lived in college housing when I was younger and it was really cheap. Be sure to go to the fafsa.edu.gov website and apply for financial aid. You may qualify for a Pell Grant. A Pell Grant is money given to you with no expectation of it being paid back.
Don't give up! You can accomplish your dream!
@missy1981 (22)
• Australia
5 Feb 07
HI, I too had a child when I was 15. I know how hard it is to bring up a child when you are so young yourself. I never got to achieve what I wanted to, but I held off for a little while, and although it seems it takes forever, if you were destined to be something, you will be. I now work at home with my 3 younger children, and it's something that works for me.
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@Justme2007 (1848)
• United States
4 Feb 07
Pray I was mom at 16 and it was hard,but I think everyone in the house should help since you pay all the bills. If you can sit down and talk to them explain to them how you are feeling and tell them to help more with babysitting so you can make more money maybe they will want to help then. I will pray that it works in your favor god bless.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
5 Feb 07
i understand your situation please don't be so depressed. actually may be u are facing the problem as you are mither of 2 young children So take your time. anyways you can't neglect yoiur children. You have to wait for some time to pursue your dream. don't think its all end of your dreams. enjoy:)
@mkmissey76 (498)
• United States
4 Feb 07
i too had my son at an early age i was 15 when i got pregnant with him. it is really good that you have gotten as far as you have. Dont ever give up on your dreams I have dont that an i am regreting it and trying to get back to school myself.can you afford to move out on your own I know it would be hard at first. in most places ( i dont know where your located but they have housing assistance.I was on it for 4 years. it is based on your income and then you could pershape get day care for your children. I sure hope that you persure your dreams girl their there go for them .. you will be better rewarded in the future.. :)
@michele609 (1687)
• United States
4 Feb 07
Thank You, Well atleast i know that someone out there knows how I feel.
@mobyfriend (1017)
• Netherlands
5 Feb 07
Don't give up your dreams. You will set an example for your children. They will admire their mother who worked very hard for her dreams and if they understand what you are doing they will follow that example by chasing their own dreams and working very hard for them.
And follow what everyone said in this discussion: try to find help with the babysitting. Maybe you can hire someone to babysit for you. If the other 3 adults see that maybe they will consifer helping you out more.
But I wish you success with everything you do. Raising two wonderful is already one of them.
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@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
28 Feb 07
wow, 2 at once, that must of been a challenge and im really glad you tried and are giving these two wonderful children a good life best to your ability. im sure you could apply for assistance where you re as a student. why do the other adults not help you out.
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
5 Feb 07
It souns like you are in pretty good control of your life and I continue to work and if you want to go to school at night go for it. You are only young once. So if you dont crab it now it will slip away from you. Dont ever give up your dreams.
@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Please, don't give up on something that is important to you. Even if at this moment, you don't see a way to start toward what you want, there is no reason to give up. If you give up, you will for certain not get there. Your dream is well worth while pursuing. There may not be an answer to your needs at the moment. That does not mean there is not a solution. There is, and you have the power to find it.
Keep your dream of going to school in your mind and tell yourself you can get it done. Tell yourself you will find a way to make it work out. It is not fair to you to be paying all the bills while there are other adults in the house who could help you out. I have complete faith in you to make your dreams come true. I believe in you and know you have complete control over your life.
Keep trying to find a solution. You might need to put off school for a while until you can figure out how to make it work out. Hold your dreams in your mind and you will soon find a way to have them become real.
@maru_047in (1007)
• India
5 Feb 07
I think holding your dreams for a while ll definitely have a impact cause once your children learn some discipline and they start to leave on their own means they doesn't need your support to look after or something then you can do what ever your dreams might say and I think 2 years is pretty good for learning and i think you need to struggle to do that so keep up the cool and carry on this work for some days and dont Expect anything from even your close ones cause it might be wrong in some cases dont take it bad it is the fact i have undergone some difficulties in my life.
@emekus4eyes (129)
• Lagos, Nigeria
5 Feb 07
If you want to achieve any thing take it one at a time. Make a plan of how you will go back to Nursing school. Start with the basic step. You can achieve anything you want so far you hold onto your dream and do not quit. Quiters do not win.
@PacificChief (123)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I take it that the other adult in the house is the father?Iam sure there are on-line courses on nursing you do,but no dont throw away your dreams just "put them on hold"your cycle of bad luck has to break soon.The bludger living in the house might get a job.
@ag_abscruzmd (2283)
• United States
5 Feb 07
If that happens to me, I would sit us all down and talk things out -- heart to heart. I do believe that there is no such thing as a one-way traffic (it should run both ways). We all experience crossroads in our life, and at this point you know what you wanted to do but can't work on it. I would solve the problem at its root. I think that you have been keeping up with you responsibilities and it's about time to fulfill your dreams. I would make them compromise with me.
@kltejeda (101)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Have you ever heard of University of Phoenix? You can get a Bachelor's in 3 1/2 years. They have a RN Bachelor's Program. You should give it a try. Very often you'll find that no one can help you...oddly enough, it's your own family who's reluctant to offer help. You're pretty much on your own, but you must not give up. Your kids depend on you and most likely look up to your success. If you want your kids to be raised right...lead by example. It's not only the best thing you can do to achieve your dreams, but also the best thing you can do to help your kids achieve their dreams as well.
@rahuldmhatre (736)
• India
5 Feb 07
well its not like that, you have a right to be upset about the fact that you cannot be what you want to be i.e. rn , but then you have to keep in mind that you also have to take cae of two children and your mom, yes your mom may look after the kids but then even she has work, and you have a current job.....so i think that you should be proud to be what you are, dont be upset, let the kids grow up a little so that they can take care of themselves , then maybe you can register for the course, and you can fulfill your dream, the point here is dont be depressed, you look like a fighter to me, and fighters do not have depression, they just have bad times, which you are having and i know you will fight it off to reach your goal...best of luck my friend
@mommy2jason922 (529)
• United States
5 Feb 07
well if they are 6 now and you have adults in the house it shouldnt be to hard to take night classes because the kids will be ready for bed about the time you leave for class, and then all the adults have to do is just keep an ear out for them instead of an eye out.
@jennybeans (912)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Don't you dare give up on your dreams, michele. Being a mother is a full time job, yes, and you have to work hard to provide for your kids, but in doing so you also have to make sure you're not running yourself into the ground to do it. Maybe there is something you could do to double the amount of time it would take to earn the degree and just go on weekends or half the time in the evening instead of all evening. Even if it is impossible now, hold onto that dream and let it drive you to do what you have to.
@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Don't give up on your dreams, I know you can find a way to pursue your dreams. Apply for financial aid and maybe they can help with daycare too. Do you have a partner? Why aren't the other adults helping out?
@cyberdude770 (6)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
well,at your age i think you just have to hold on to your dreams coz dreams are not that easy to fulfill and i suggest that you should make a drastic move on how you should be living and handling your finances coz 3 other adults is not a laughing matter maybe you can ask them to help you with the bills or with the kids, it's either way... take care and more power...just hang-on to your dreams!
