If you can't BEAT them, JOIN them -- If you can't JOIN them, BEAT them

Yes I have heard these two sayings before and in my view they are right the first one being if you can't beat them join them and I have on many occassions and with the second one if you can't join them beat them I have also done this before as well and yes I have had experience at both of these firstly when I used to play basketball I could not beat them at the game so I join in and then won many competitions. and when it came to not joining them but beating them well I was told that I would never be a good typist so I put myself into a postive move and won that competition in a typing test for the whole country and won that too typing at 90 words per minute with 100% accuracy in those days. Not now though as I had children and stopped typing so much.

Every competitive and intelligent person will take those words, because at the end of the day, you don't need to be a part of the losing group, you always want to win. So, this is a "win-win" situation. You can get more idea about how to succeed and keep everyone happy, from this book, "leading quietly", by Badaracco.

hi,its all happen in everybody's life.If we are clever enough,we will adjust with the situation and joined with them.If we have upper hand,we will dominate them.

it means that if you cant try to changed the way your children behaved then try looking it at their genre be level of them and then try analyzing whats the best move that you can let them obey you or at least listen to you as parent..that situation goes also with friends...well its obvious its the opposite...its the reverse of what i have been explaining here ,,but situations with friends is not suitable though you either join them or leave them...