Why are some responses not answered............

I don't think it is a case of not good enough but a case of if it grabs the attention of the posters before it leaves the first couple of pages.

In my case it is because the person has said nothing of value in their response. For example I am currently checking all the responses to one of my discussions and have come across these little gems "nice story" "yeah" and "I guess we've all been there at some point. Some may even return as they are older". Now I am confused by these responses, but how many times do you want so say "I have no idea what you are talking about" or "please do not spam and if you don't know, please do not respond to my discussions". So after the first couple, I do tend to ignore these types of responses. I will however make a comment to all other responses that show the person had actually read the discussion before putting fingers to keyboard. For me, it doesn't matter whether it is a friend or someone else who responds to my discussions. The only difference is that I might add a more "personal" comment to a friend than to someone else. As far as I am concerned anyone who responds to any of my discussions deserves a comment from me, if they have put an effort into the response that is. Sometimes I might get a little bit behind but eventually I do catch up on all of them. There are some people, I am certain, who do not read the responses at all because they never make a comment, never give a best response or if they do then it is to the first person who answers. I do not believe that is a proper discussion at all when someone posts a discussion, others respond and that is the end of it. However people will do what they think is right and as many are here for the only money or more than the conversation or discussions, they will do no more than is necessary to earn what they can with as little effort as they can. I am one cranky person at times, and if I find that one of my friends does not acknowledge in any way the responses to their discussions, hit the delete button. If they aren't on my list of friends, then I just do not respond to any more of their discussions. There are more than enough discussions to respond to without worrying about people who can ignore those who take some time and effort. Off my soapbox for now. LOL

I am in some discussions where the person who started the discussion never responds to anyone. Like you, I wonder if the starter ever comes back to look at the responses to the discussion or do they just move on to the next subject. I am in other discussions where only one ot two posts get a response. Sometimes only those in agreement are getting a response. When there is nothing special about the posts, I try to figure out why those individuals got a response and the rest of us did not. Maybe the ones who received a response are friends. Maybe not. Maybe their response touched something very special that we can't understand. I don't know. Maybe those members who are selective without reason will step forward and explain why they do what they do. As for me, I enjoy the back and forth conversation so I try to respond to every post unless it is a really short one liner that I feel does not expect a response. I also try to evaluate every response to give a liberal rating when I see the response is from the heart.

Hello caramello nice to see you again lately i have had a hard time just replying to the replies in my posts which i like to respond to all of them but i think i will respond to some others for a while But i know what you mean it`s like some posts seem to be invisible the answer for that i don`t know .The past few days i have had some replies from threads i couldn`t even remember making i think they were a result of one night when i had a bit to drink easecially given the topics

I figure they just didn't like what I said or I didn't agree with what they said so I figure is the reason why they didn't answer. It use to bug me a lot but am like whatever now.

Hey cara, i noticce that too and especially if u have put a lot of time an effort into the resopnse you kinda feel as though why bother. I must admit i dont always reply to one liners or rude people but i do try and respond to most of the posts. I know some people dont even go back and read if the topic holder has replied to tehm, thats evident if you ask them a question and you just get ignored! Again why bother responding?? So anyways have gr8 day!

I too have attempted to find out why people regard posting a "comment" as holding a discussion, in the other forums people respond instantly to each others response and can hold chats for hours!! Here I have found that whether it's through the time difference between countries or whatever, but I am lucky if I get more than a couple of comments from the same individual, in the same discussion!

Personally, like you I like to respond to every answer. Sometimes they are not worthy of responses though. I think you know the one answer/sentence type I mean. But even these I say thankyou for your response. I think if you are having a discussion with someone its a bit one sided and rude not being answered isn't it.

Yes it has happened to me. I think sometimes it's because people are just responding to their friends, other times it could be that they just don't like what I had to say!? I guess there is no real way of ever knowing.

Well I think That either My response was not good enough to be answered Or It did not get the attentions of the responsers. I think people usually read the first line and go on.

I've had that happen and have wondered the same thing. Did the person read it? Did they think I was stupid? Did they disagree with me? I know that we don't have to respond to every comment in a discussion, but when yours is just about the only unanswered post it makes you wonder. Oh, well- who cares, right? We can only do the best that we can, and if it's not good enough then there is nothing more we can do.

Well to start with some responses are not answered this is due to some members do not put enough information into their discussions and therefore they will find that they o not hardly receive responses. Especially those with only one line as I have lost points when I was only new here replying to ones like this and if the members put in more information therefore they also earn more money from doing this so it is best to put more info.

i also feel the same way and experience that way. i don't get too much responses from my discussions as what others would have. i think and i feel i don't get noticed or my discussions are not as interesting as they would want them to be. there will come a time i will get to use to this mylot and i can posts some real good discussions and get replies.

I'm new here but I have noticed that some people comment on their friend's responses, others it just depends if they have something to say to that response.

When I started to write here I answered every single one of my responses . I still rate them all but now I have more responses ( not a complaint) I just can't answer them all , so my rating them is a thank you ,. I hope I was not the one who didnt leave you a response xx

That is an excellent question, and I have no idea as to the answer for it.

I have been reading through lots of discussions in the last week or so and notice that you are right here ..... but it seems that a lot of people do not even acknowledge any responses at all ...... they make no comments at all to any response ...... that is not good because they are not interacting with others. I have not started any discussions at all yet ..... so cannot say what I do .... but seeing what friends do that is probably what I will do too and make a comment to those which are worthwhile and ignore the others. No point in starting a discussion if the responses are not read ..... seems to me then it is more about making money than anything else.

Frankly, some aren't worth a reply. I got some character who wanted to know if I was asking a riddle. About commuting? There's dumb, and there's too dumb. Some I would wish did get a reply, but let's face it, there is such a thing as not getting too enthused when you get responses which are virtually identical, too. You answer them all by answering one. A few have so many friends it's just unrealistic to expect responses all the time, too.

Maybe they are not interested or maybe they cannot relate to the posted topics.