How to get my child with ADHD to be inactive after surgery?
@payingforschool (678)
Canada
February 4, 2007 9:43pm CST
My son is 8 1/2, and has ADHD. He is medicated, but is still very active - the meds deal a lot with the attention issues and the impulsivity.
My son also has a cleft lip and palate. He has a bone graft surgury comigg up in March.
In order for the bone graft to 'take' my son has to be inactive for some time. He can't even do gym class at school when he goes back.
I think I am more concerned with keeping him inactive for months than I am with the pain of the surgury! This kid never EVER settles down. I think it will be a nightmare trying to keep watch on him to make sure he's not jumpign on anything. Our house has some things he is allowed to jump on - small trampoline, chin up bar ... so that I don't have to watch him like a hawk now....but after surgury, I'll be back on 'full time'. I'm terrified the bone graft will get knocked our and it will be my fault.
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@ilse72 (1450)
• United States
5 Feb 07
As you know, those with ADHD are very impulsive so you will have to constantly remind him to "take it easy." Remind him every chance you can...talk to him every day, prior to surgery, about how he will not be permitted to take gym, rough house, play sports, jump on things, etc. and be sure to explain why. At 8, he will understand the reason but he will still have to be watched due to impulsivity. These kids take SO much reinforcement. The average child gets the message after being told 3 or 4 times but an ADHD kid might not get it until they have been told a thousand times or more! It is because their impulses are stronger than their ability to relate to cause and effect. I would also discuss your concerns with the surgeon. He might reocmmend some protective gear to protect your child's mouth/face while he is on limited activity.
I'm an R.N. and raised two boys with ADHD.
@ilse72 (1450)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I forgot to add, if there is a particular activity he loves to do that is quiet, overindulge him during this time. For example: legos, matchbox cars or micro machines, reading...whatever quiet activities hold his interest. Even bend the rules and allow more tv than usual if that is a quiet activity he enjoys....just let him know ahead of time it is related to the surgery and the extra tv hours will not be permitted after recovery.
P.S. If something does happen, it is NOT your fault! As mothers, we do the best we can and that is all anyone can ask or expect of us. Things happen sometimes no matter how diligent we are about watching. Good luck!
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@payingforschool (678)
• Canada
5 Feb 07
Thanks so much for both of your comments. I will definitely talk to his surgeon about if there is some extra way we can protect him. And I do know intellectually that if the graft fails it's not my fault - but my emotions don't always follow my intellect. I hope it goes better than I think it will. Thanks again.
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@rainbow (6761)
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5 Feb 07
Oh dear, this is gong to be tough.
Can you hide the chin-up bar and tramaline for a while?
Unfortunately you are going to have to do lots of gentle activities, snap cards, colouring, crafts, computer games, reading together, watching tv/DVDs jigsaws etc and being on constant alert for running around.
I have no idea how you are going to do this, my boys cannot sit still for 2 seconds together. I think yor housework is going to have to be done when he's at school or left because you are going to have to watch him constantly.
Can you set bedtime a bit earlier or is he like Bong and only sleeps 4-6 hours a night too?
Could your occupational therapist come up with any new suggestions that may help?
I wish you all the best with this, if I think of any cleverways to keep him still I will get back to you.
Let me know how he gets on please, bless him poor litte fellow.
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@payingforschool (678)
• Canada
5 Feb 07
Thanks rainbow. I can hide the chinup bar and the tramp - but my other son really needs them for stimulation, as he is Autistic. I think it is just going to be an exhausting time, and there is nothing I can do about it. I am stocking up on things like special colouring books, quiet games, and videos. I want to have a constant supply of them to pull out to keep him occupied. Thanks so much for your thoughts, I appreciate it.