Is it ever the womans fault

Some women may push their men farther than they should, but you know what? Then the man should walk away and be done with her, a man should never resort to hitting a woman no matter what.

The man chose to hit her. And hit her repeatedly. Any time someone *abuses* someone else, it is the abusers fault. Smacking someone who smacked you first is not an abusive relationship. Abusive relationships are about dominance and the assertion of power through violence and verbal threats. It's not about little domestic disputes. You really should do some research into the psychology of abusers - both male and female.

No one has the right to hit another person. be it a man or a woman. And definetely no one deserves the violence. If someone bugs you or gets you mad is no reason to hit them. So no matter what the problem is, violence does not solve anything

I believe it is a shared fault.It usually starts from lack of communication in the beginning.If both tell the other what their boundaries and expectations are,then a problem should never esculate to the point of violence. Of course I do live in a fantasy world where everything is black and white.

Men can be abused as well as women can. But that does not make it all right for a man to hit back. If he is being abused, he needs to insist on counseling, divorce her, or whatever, but it isn't OK for a man or a woman to hit back. On the other hand, it is very common for abusive men to deliberately provoke their wives and push them to the breaking point, knowing that if they keep doing it long enough, she'll do something that will "justify" (at least in his eyes) doing whatever he wants to her. My ex used to tell me that if I laid a hand on him (no matter how harmless) he felt free to do whatever he wanted to me. So he would get right in my face screaming his head off, spit flying, calling me the worst names you can imagine, and if I put my hand on his chest to push him away, he would pick me up and throw me across the room, into walls, whatever, and while I would lay on the floor curled up in a ball he would kick me over and over in the small of my back. He knew I wasn't going to hurt him (he weighed more than twice as much as me), but to him, he could use it as an excuse. Not that he didn't do the same things many times when I didn't touch him at all. In any case, it is never OK for a man to hit a woman or for a woman to hit a man. It may be understandable at times, but it isn't OK. I do believe that the ability to cause harm (because of a difference in size and strength) makes it worse for a man to hit a woman.