i felt that hes cheating on me coz he doesnt have time for me
@simply_anna23 (1)
Philippines
October 11, 2006 4:46am CST
me and my boyfriend has been talkin for almost a year but we only met twice.. our relationship is long distance since he just come over here once a year..were only talkin online and usin cam so we could still see each other even if were living far. hes workin in the US airforce, hes 27 yrs old, hes been assigned in quoatar for 4 months and we didnt see each other for that period of time, hes just callin me sometimes when hes off to his work, he has a daughter whos currently livin here phil coz hes been married once here with filipina but now theyre already divorce.. well, my point is hes here now in philippines but then he doesnt have time to spent with me.I just pick him up in the airport and assist him to his hotel for a while, we just spent time together for like 3 hours or so coz i go home that night and i cant stay with him for a long time.. so we decide to just meet again when his finished with his daughter coz i know that his daughter is his proirity to spent his time while his here and i completely understand him for that thing but i smell somethin fishy really coz he doesnt even give me a call or text to say hi or something just to check me out u know! when i ask him if he has someone else hes saying that im just being paranoid and hes sick and tired of me accusing him of something he didnt do but how sure i am that hes really not cheating on me and hes just been very busy with his daughter? he only have few days left here and dont know really if we could still meet u since he didnt call me.. what should i do? i like him but now im really felt so confused if i should still meet him up or not anymore and just forget him?! i hope to hear from u and u could give me a piece of advice
7 responses
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
HE IS NOT CHEATING ON YOU MY DEAR BECAUSE IN THE FIRST PLACE HE IS JUST PLAYING YOU AROUND.THE GUY DOES NOT REALLY LOVE YOU. IF YOU ARE JUST COMMUNICATING WITH HIM ELECTRONICALLY, YOU ARE LIKE FALLING IN LOVE WITH A MACHINE.COMPUTERS DOES NOT HAVE FEELINGS ONLY LOGIC EVENTHOUGH THE ONE SPEAKING TO YOU AND TELLING YOU SWEET NOTHINGS, STILL THE FEELING IS NOT THERE.BESIDES YOU ONLY MET HIM PHYSICALLY TWICE. THAT IS NOT LOVE.LOVE NEEDS TO HAVE A LOT OF SACRIFICES ON HIS PART NOT JUST YOU.PLUS HE HAS A KID AND HE IS WITH The USAF.COME ON GIRL. PINOY TAYO DI PWEDE ANG GANYAN.
@moneymoney (789)
• India
21 Oct 06
He is young, just 27 years. His daughter is still a small girl. She is in the same country. Now, Is the girl with her mother? Does he go to see his ex-wife? If he has completely forgotten about his ex, then why are you not with the girl, who is your boyfriend's daughter? Do you intend to maintain distance between yourself and his daughter? Maybe you protrayed yourself that way. If the girl is not staying with her mother, then you should be taking care of the girl. Afterall he is your boyfriend. You might marry him, then she might become your daughter. Think about it. People don't change so suddenly. Maybe he is deliberately maintaining distance. Did you approach the matter of marriage? what was his re-action? Can't help you much without details. I am not telling you to follow my advice. Try to analyse the situation from his perspective. You'll have a clearer picture. Hope that helped......
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
21 Oct 06
It sounds like you're wanting him all to yourself. If so, get out of the relationship now. His daughter is a reality, and she's always going to be a part of his life. And long distance relationships are very hard to sustain. Find someone closer to home and work at building a strong, lasting relationship.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
21 Oct 06
I can't possibly say if he really is spending all that time with his daughter, but if so, I'd understand. Children are the world to their parents. If you feel something is wrong and he tells you there is nothing wrong, decide for yourself if the trouble you're going through is worth the 3 fun hours you have with him.
Also, trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. If you feel like you can't trust him, seriously start thinking if that's how you want your life to be. Good luck on this.
@researchscholar (2218)
• India
21 Oct 06
With people opinion don't take decision. this is your life how people can tell about him
