Is being a stay-at-home mom worth it for you?

I work part-time. This allows me money, but also gives me the time to be home with my kids. This also gives me that breather from the house sometimes. My kids, and being with them means more to me than any job. Their kisses, hugs, and talks, make my day. That's great pay enough. I'm not much of a housekeeper.. but I know how to clean things up, so that I'm not spending hours cleaning every day. I also cook meals that don't take 2 years and forever to make. Sometimes you have to shorten the time with other things to make time for things that really matter the most to you. If your job means more then your kids.. let the day care raise them, you make your money, and spend less time with your kids. I mean after all they don't have a choice in the matter. I'm not saying you have to be a SAHM... but there are things you can do that equal it all out. You're human after all!

I could not be a stay at home mom. I am to career driven although my children are my life. I like going out and working it makes me feel better about myself I tried staying home with the kids because we really didn't need the money and drove myself crazy. Although the internet wasn't as big back them LOL. Maybe it would be different now.

as much as I love my children being a stay at home mom was NOT in my best interest. I hated being stuck at home every day & hated the feeling of having to ask my husband for money. having to ask him if I could go some place or if we could do something different. I also hated the roles he put me in...barefoot & pregnant was not for me. I lOVE being independant & having my own money! Making my own choices...not letting my man be the only bread winner. ITs a good feeling inside. Im not saying being a stay at home mom is wrong but its NOT for everyone...and it doesnt make you a bad mother if you want to work either. Its different for everyone.

If you really think of a good family life then it is better for a women to stay at home when kids are born unless you have a good support system, your mom or his mom to look after the kids while you work otherwise there is a lotof turmoil and stress you can try to do some work from your house if you want to earn something, but you should be happy otherwise you can't make others happy it should be your decision what you want to do. so pray and decide what is best for you. All the best

That is a decision you have to make on your own. I know a lot of people who make great stay at home moms but I also have some friends who are just better mothers when they are working. If you feel you need to work then that is probably exactly what you need to do. If we are forced into doing something, there is very little chance we are going to enjoy it and this just makes things worse in the end. I am at stay at home mom, but it was more by choice than because anyone told me I had to. I probably would have kept working if I'd been told I "had" to be a stay at home mom.

Yes. i think marriage gives a person commitment to take care of the kids, the spouse and the house. when there are kids the house is a mess and the parents should take care of that. but dont forget the utmost commitment to look after ourselves. It's always worthy to spend time with people i love. and the kids will grow so soon and i don't really have to stay home.

if that is how you feel then you have to let him know that. let be honest with him about your feelings. never start any relationship with things like this weighing on your mind. i was blessed to be able to do both. i was a stay at home mom with my boys. when my younger one was 3 i had to go back to work. i now have a 2 year old little girl and i really miss the fact that i could not stay home with her. but i love working and i so need the money. do what feels right for you is all i can so

being a stay at home mom is worth it to me because I get to raise my children and watch them grow! Also it saves 800 dollars a month in child care.

yeah i think its worth coz i have a daughter to taking care of,i don't want other people to take care of my daughter.I don't trust them,its good if you are the one who take care of your family so that there is a good bonding.I will just wait until my daughter go to school then that's the time i'm going to work.

you did the right thing. If I were that guy I will respect your decision and I personally encourage that women should work and it can help the families to have better life. If women doing part time it would be the best since this way the women can take care of the house and earn something to help the families too. I know that nothing perfect but I this is what I think and I thought that it is the best thing to do.

While I great enjoy being a stay at home mom, if that had been the conditions of the proposal, I would have said "No Way!" I actually had refused to be a stay at home mom, until I had my son. I love being home with him, but I get major cabin fever too. I am currently looking for a part time job so that I can work, like I used to, but still be able to be home most of the time with my son.

you know friend I've always wanted to be stay at home mom because I want to have at least 6 childred and fo me its fulfilling to see your childred or guiding them by your own.

Like most of the responses I would have to say that you have to make that choice. I can only share my experiences. I was working right up until 12 months ago. I worked after the birth Eamon, and then when Lloyd was born I still worked and I was still working when Kelsey was born. I was lucky enough to have a husband who stayed at home mainly due to the fact he couldnt get a job. I think age played a lot in that. Then 12 months ago he landed a great job. Which mean't I had to give up work because we both agreed it would be better for the children to have one parent on hand. Sadly, I gave up work to become a stay at home mother. My husband thought that it would be good for me to experience the joys of raising a family as well as a chance for nme to take it slow. Of course after 3 months he thought he might have to give up work so I could go back to work. He told me that he hadnt realised it was a big adjustment, and I told him that it would be fine and sometimes I get bored. So I created a new life, I sometimes sell products at the markets, I do on line selling, I even create websites for companies and most of this can be done at home.Currently when I am not here I am designing my own childrens labels. And with all this going on I am running the kids around, cooking cleaning and all the usual mum things. Being a stay at home mum I think is what you are willing to put into it. Big bonus I have is watching the children grow. I missed out on the boys when they were little but I have been lucky enough to watch my daughter grow from birth to now. Its been a pleasure

I think it is a great idea to be a stay at home mom...I am a Stay @ home mom...I love everyday of it & wouldnt change it for the world..BUT i do wish i still worked..I quit my job when i got pregnany with my baby now 8 weeks old...I miss working alot & wish i was still there but then again my kids are mor important to me ...Being the one who brings home the money isnt as important...Keeping usy & not being bored is the worst part about it though..My baby keeps me busy BUT i get bored being at home all the time & not able to go anywhere...house work on the other hand I am very very blessed ..I have a wonderful husband who does all of that...If i dont want to I dont have to do any of it...But that makes me really lazy at times..So my advice to you is: Do what makes you happy..If working makes you happy & helps you know that you are a good mother by providing for them & all then go for it...If being home with htem is what would be best for them & you & not stress you out to the point of no return..then do that....You have to make YOU happy first or noone else will be happy .... YOU cant be miserable while trying to make others happy ..It wont work that way.... GOD BLESS & GOOD LUCK....

yes it is worth.if not for the full life time. it would be good if you stay home till your kid grow up and start going to school.but of course finally you have to decide.

What makes it worth it to me is that in the early years, I have had full control over what my kids have been exposed to. I was not interested in having other people (daycare) raise my children. Not to say daycare is bad- it just wasn't for me, and not something I felt I wanted for my kids. Also, financially, it didn't make much sense to work. It was a better option to be a SAHM. But it's hard work. I have nobody to talk to except for online, or if you count my little kids. There are times when I go nuts and just want to run away. It's tiring. And often I don't feel appreciated- by either my kids (which I expect) or my husband (which is probably typical). Don't even ask me about housework. LOL

I am currently a stay at home mother and actually love it. I love being able to see the new things that our daughter does and be able to see my husbands face when he comes home and the house is clean and dinner is waiting for him. He loves being able to know that after his busy work day that he will be able to come home to me and not have to worry about having different work hours. I love being able to give him that satisfaction when he gets home he can relax a 120%.

If I have a child, I would like to stay home with my kid. It would be cheaper in some peoples circumstances who only make minimal wage. Also, I don't want someone else raising my child. Putting their opinions and etc... in my child's head. Plus, you cannot trust anyone anymore to take care of your child. There is no telling what people do to the kids and usually the child is too young to tell.

If you are worried about being a good mom, I think that it a sign of the fact that you are concincious enough to be a good mom, as far as being a stay at home mom, it has been wonderful fo 11 years and counting, yes, we have to budget, butthe time and effort that you put into teaching your children is very rewarding, my daughter is doing great in school and has a good head on her shoulders, if I worked, I could not spend time with her like she needs and she might not be doing so well in school, and yes I worked 3 jobs until I could not work any more. So staying at home is not at all a bad chioce if you ask me.

Wow - that's a huge thing to hang marriage on! I think it's impossible to know if staying at home is for you until you try it for a while. It's a hard job. It's been hard for me sometimes to get over the feeling that I'm not "contributing" by working and bringing home a paycheck, and I've been home with the kids for 6 years! But it is also amazing to really see them grow, and to know that it is you, instead of a daycare, that is guiding them in their earliest years. It's very rewarding - you just have to force yourself to remember that sometimes. Good luck, I hope some of the answers here help you make the choice that is right for you. And...just my opinion, you might want to explain to your guy, if you don't want to stay home with the kids, that it does the kids no good to have a stay at home mom if the mom isn't happy...the kids just end up having to spend time with a grumpy and unsatisfied person all day, which isn't a good example for them. Good Luck, and Happy wishes! oh...and congrats on the proposal!