Can you forgive a cheating husband??? pls. give insights and suggestions. help!

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I've never experienced this kind of pain before. It was so painful to me to see my husband love somebody else. I noticed it when he started to keep his cell phone to himself. He used to let it lie around but that changed. He would put his phone inside his pocket where ever he went... even if it's the bathroom. I started to get more suspicious when my sister told me that my husband would leave much earlier for work than he was supposed to (our working hours were opposite that's why I wouldn't know). I wanted to know if I was just being a paranoid or what. So I would sneak in and get his cell phone while he slept in the morning while I prepare to go to work (those were the only moments he would take his phone out of his pocket... mind you, he'd still put it in a safe place - under his pillow). There were so many times I felt relieved for not finding evidences that would tell me he was cheating, but not for long. I found three love messages from the his co-worker hidden in the templates that have simple titles like 'good morning.' I confronted him. I was able to squeeze out important information about his affair from him like the number of times they visited a motel, things like that. It was so hurtful. It was only more than a month ago when I learned about it. I am still doing a lot of thinking, making myself busy to numb the pain. My husband told me it was over for him and the girl, but I couldn't give my trust just like that even if I wanted to... I love him so much but I am so confused and in doubt.