Tell me about the hardest thing you ever had to do.

The hardest thing I've ever done was the exact same thing you did. I looked after my father (who also had terminal cancer) when he was dying (in 1989). He was only 40 years old, and I was 23. It's been a long time, and I'm 40 now, and I still tear up when I think of it too. I guess I always will.

After reading everyone else's responses, my life seems like a cake walk! The hardest thing I've ever done is child birth. I thought it was bad at the time, but it was over fairly quickly compairitively speaking...

I have my share. My youngest child has leukemia and I am personally taking care of him. He just turned 19 last February 03. It is an illness which has taken hold of him right from birth. No one knew then. The manifestations started showing when he was 3 years old. He was ten years old then, when the doctor told me that there is nothing much we can do anymore to lengthen his life, he was dying. I prayed to God with all my heart, to take him good, as his life now is all in God's hands. By what miracle, my son survived! This is the reason why until now, I still ache for him so much. Imagine the pain he suffers day in, day out. But I am very thankful to the Lord for the life he is continuously showering upon my son. For my son, I know tears will never stop falling, but definitely I am happy having him around.

My hearty condolence for you and your family.Definitly all of us going to the graviod.So dont feel about the past.He may left so many things for you and your family.Be enjoy with your family..

The hardest thing I have ever done was watching my dad dying from cancer in Dec. 2001 I was living 3 states away when he got to the point my brothers were getting ready to put him in nursing home. He told me if any of us even thought of it he would haunted us the rest of lives. I talked to my hubby and we decided to pack up an move home to take care of my dad. I never thought i could do it. It was rewarding to know i made his last wishes to die at home happen. The 3 months of taking of him if I had come home my brother would have destroyed him more than they did by never coming to see him the 3 months that my hubby and I took care of him.

having to admit that my son was really gone although i was only pregnant a short while it was the hardest thing in my life. to know that he wasnt going to be coming in to the world. to know i have an angel instead of the precious angel i was supposed to be able to hold and love

I can relate to you also. My father was diagnosed with stage IV melanoma on December 1st, since then the cancer has spread everywhere. He has finished his radiation treatments which were done mainly to prevent bone fractures, he has cancer in his bones too, it is really everywhere. He is not doing chemo, because it would only prolong his pain, and suffering. It is so hard to see him like this, my father was always such a strong man, he did everything right too, ya know, he ate right, never smoked, always used protection in the sun, exercised, and he loved to run. Now he uses a cane, and if we go to the doctor I wheel him in his wheelchair. I took him for all his treatments with the radiation, and I feel like I am the source of his torture somehow. I mean, I know I helped him by taking him for the treatments, but he also got so sick from them, I wouldn't wish this disease on anyone in the world not ever. I love my father so very much, and it breaks my heart to see him like this. I just wish there was something someone could do to help him, to heal him, it is up to God, he is the only one who can heal him now, and if that isn't in Gods plan, then I hope my dad doesn't suffer much longer. He is my hero, always has been and I really would trade places with him in a heartbeat if I could. Thank you for posting this, you have touched my heart today : )

Hardest thing I ever had to do was say good-bye to my brother and watch him die in a hospital bed. I saw his monitor go flat and my heart just dropped.

The hardest thing I ever had to do was to decide to put our beloved, aged cats to sleep. 2 in 3 months! My husband couldnt do it, but they were both in such pain and duress, I couldnt face them another day. In the end my husband forgave me, but those 2 decisions were the hardest I ever had to make in my life and we have 4 more younger ones to face in the far (I pray) future.

Well, very much like you, I nursed my Mother through a terminal illness. I gave up work for 6 months to care for her, because she did not want anyone else to do all the little, eeprsonal things for her, and she wanted to be at home. It was hard (as you will know)), but I do not regret one moment of it. I did what I thought was right for the person I loved most in the world.

Mine is very similar to yours. My mum was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer (5 years ago). I went with her to every one of her chemo treatments which unfortunately had no effect...she passed away (at home also) about 4 months after her initial diagnosis...still very painful for me to talk about.

tha was to feedmy dad's goat and its way to deal with it it so wild I think I fear it some times

Losing my mother was the hardest thing I ever went through. I lost her on my third day of my senior year in high school. She didnt get the oppurtunity to see me graduate and will never see me marry or have children. :( I do my best to make her proud every day through any and every action I do.

The hardes thing I ever had to do when my husband of 30years left, and I found proof in his things that he had abused his sister and other for years in his teens. He had been confronted by his sister during our marriage but he vividly denied everything. I had, after seeking proffesional advice, tell our children because of the grandchildren. That was truly the hardes thing in my live I ever had to do. It still gives me nightmares.

the hardest thing for me was : standing in front of the audiences on the stage alone and speaking. i've done it several times ,but i don'tknow why the fear justs haunts me. the worst thing is i had to speak in front of the public with a smiling face. thats really difficult.

well i had to pass this medical exam to get in medical college, the study was very extensive and i had to complete that in 2 months, guess i studied 20 hrs those 2 months and finally got in.....man that was tough

wow tht mutve been hard to say goodbye. i hope u cope though, ......thanks for the discussion...

Mine was the same a a lot of people here. My father had been diagnosed with acute myeloid leukemia right before Memorial Day in 1997 (end of May for those of you not from US). He was told there were no medications that could help him at this point and had 3 months to live. His doctor had found an experimental treatment which might give him some hope but no guarantees. My father fought for life and tried the experimental chemo. Unfortunately, it did not work and he passed on October 14, 1997. The hardest part for me was watching him try to fight for his life and losing the battle. I didn't work that whole time and spent as much time as possible with him in the hospital. During that whole time he was in the hospital except for 1 week that he asked to be home. When the treatment failed seeing the defeat in his eyes when he was told, again, he was going to die and only had possibly 3 months to live was unbearable but I stayed strong for him. Unfortunately, 2 1/2 weeks later he passed on. It's very hard, which I'm sure most of you know, to watch someone dying. My father said to me, dying is the easy part, the ones who live on have the hard part.

hardest thing i ever did is to look after ma brother 4 full 1 day... he tottaly screwed me.... i guess tat was the hardest day in my life...

This may sound a bit insensitive in reponse to everyone's hearfelt stories. I guess I have just been lucky in my life thus far. The actual hardest things I've ever had to do was quit smoking after 10 years of smoking 2 packs a day. I woke up one day and decided I was sick of feeling bad and havn't smoked again. Now the next week was the hardest week in my life. I experienced physical pain, stress and nausia. After 4 months I cant tell you the difference I feel in my life. If anyone out there is a smoker...quit..it'll be the best thing you ever do for yourself.