In Lieu of Flowers
By stateroad
@stateroad (730)
United States
February 5, 2007 2:47pm CST
Recently I had to look at the Obituaries in the local paper and I noticed an obituary of a young Father and he died suddenly leaving a wife and 3 young children. Some of the children were not even in school yet because of their ages. The obituary stated "In Lieu of Flowers - Make Donations to .... " It then listed the bank account and Family name to make the donations too. I was telling my Friend about it and she got all upset saying that it was horrible to do that. She said that the Family should not have been so rude like that asking for money. I tried to explain to her that sometimes to Family's the money is more useful then the flowers. Especially in this circumstance were the Father died leaving a wife and 3 young children. To me it is no different when I see an obituary that states "IN LIEU OF FLOWERS" and to make donations to a Charity. I do not think the Family who states in an obituary "In Lieu of FLowers" and what they request be done in their loved ones name is wrong. Do you ?
2 responses
@craftwave (1338)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I'm not sure what ettiquette books would say on the matter but in my book it is alright to let people know what you really need. So many times people say please let me know how I can help and mean it and the people who need the help never say what they need. I commend this family for saying what they need. Anyone who truly cares about the family will not be offended but relieved to know that there is something they can do that will make a difference.
@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I think that a person should not judge another. Also, none of know how we will react to such a sad situation, until it happens. Also, when in shock like that, we don't always think as clearly, as we would have otherwise. My heart goes out to this young women and the children. She will do what she thinks is best for her children, and that is what is important.
