Artificial Insemination By Donor
By perihawk
@perihawk (1)
United States
February 5, 2007 3:24pm CST
I've read many many articles about children of artificial insemination by donors being very upset with their parents for choosing this method. They often feel cheated of their heritage and some of the accounts I've read are very angry.
I often feel that AID will be one of my options, as I don't see myself romantically involved in the prime fertile years I have left. Is AID a way of cheating your child? Are there ways to overcome this discomfort and psychological issues?
1 response
@ilse72 (1450)
• United States
6 Feb 07
If you are married at the time, I would not tell the child that he was conceived via AID. If you are single at the time, there is no meed to mention it unless the child asks. At that time, why not just tell your child that you wanted a child and, not being married, that you went to a doctor for help conceiving. There is no need to relay any further details unless your child specifically asks...and most don't. They just want an honest answer but don't usually want the nitty gritty.
I have known several children conceived via AID and have not heard heard of any who were angry. It is not a situation where the mother slept with a guy who was a living, breathing potential father. It is a case of medical intervention where neither party knows the other. Most children, old enough to ask, are old enough to realize that this method does not involve a true potential father figure.
Remember honesty is always the best policy but you don't have to be detailed. Answer only what is asked...usually, that is all the child wants.
