Keeping your EX as a FRIEND...is it possible?
By hottie0728
@hottie0728 (1732)
United States
February 6, 2007 12:35am CST
They say "friends can be lovers and lovers cannot be friend!"Do you believe in this saying? Actually I don't! As much as possible I would like to keep my good ex in my life! Haha...good I mean, we separate ways or broke up formally and no hurt feelings. They have been a part of my life and I still want to keep them even as a friend. So far, I only kept one ex as a friend.
10 responses
@cachitodemialma (1313)
• United States
6 Feb 07
as much as I like the idea I honestly dont think it can happen. Especially if you have a new person in your life. They may not be comfortable with it. I have one ex that I talk to still and it's only because I have 2 kids with him. I personally would NOT want my fiance to keep friends with any ex girls he may have. I wouldnt want to see them come around thinking they had the right to. Ive been in the situation before & it was not comfortable for any of us actually. The fact that so much history was there just felt ackward. I dunno its just my opinion.
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@hottie0728 (1732)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I think being friends with the father of your kids is very difficult. Your situation is much more complicated than just being friends with an ex bf/gf. You just have to keep in touch with him of course for the kids sake otherwise you won't right, lol. My bf has two kids also and somehow I feel uncomfortable knowing that he's still talking to his ex...but I gotta deal with it. They're not talking about "them" anyway, it's regarding the kids.
Thanks for sharing!
@cachitodemialma (1313)
• United States
6 Feb 07
yes true, but its still somebody from their past. either way. You never know the person they have kids with shared a part of their life but the ex boy/girl friend may have been the one they had stronger more intense feelings for. Someone they may still think about. Its a double edge sword. you dont want to run their lives and be jealous but at the same time you might worry they may rekindle something. Ive learned that the break up situations may not always be as they've told you!
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
7 Feb 07
this is true cachitodemialma. i don't feel like i want my boyfriend's exes still friends with him. they had their past and i don't want to see them being together again. i might be selfish but i feel uncomfortable seeing them together as friends. i will feel bad seeing them and sharing things like usual friends do.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
7 Feb 07
as for me, i don't consider my exes to be a friend after sometime. i just consider them as someone i knew before and that's it. but don't take me the wrong way. i do respect them. i still smile at them or even talk to them whenever i get to see them around. but to the extent fo being friends, no. i put a gap between us. things had been done and hurt feelings had been experienced before. atleast, i still give them the respect that they deserve.
@jsae29 (1120)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Exlovers don't usually end up as friends, specially if the break up is really bad. Maybe they can be friends after a few years time, if all wounds have been healed. On the other hand, if you part ways in good terms then i see no reason why you can't be friends.
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@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
9 Feb 07
My ex husband is my very good friend. I can call him if I have any problems, and he tells me if he has problem too.
@Mitch_Miyaka (797)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
its depends on the situation..for me i dont want to have a enemy of course..but i dont want to be plastic..talk to a i hate person..i think its a better way, treat him a normal person i mean be neutral to him..you know him but your no relation at all, of course his not your enemy..think that he is a anonymous person you know..greet him when its needed..no bad feelings about the past..
