Saying things to kids can hurt them more than you would think.

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I don't even know where to start. I was on another message board which I refuse to ever post on again after this. One of the posters made a rant about her 16 (I think) year old daughter. She starts out by saying she is a disgusting slob! She says she won't do her chores and she won't clean her room and she talks on the phone at all hours of the night. I was like, um well yeah, that's called being 16 right? She goes on to say that she came to live with her when she was like 7 or something. I guess she is a foster child. She goes on about how her life has been so horrible that she has to be in therapy and they can't find a therapist that seems to be able to help her. Then the kicker..... She says, "I just got fed up and told her I hope she has a daughter just like her some day." I replied saying that her daughter sounds a lot like me. Typical messy 16 year old talking on the phone all the time. I even had the troubled past and did therapy. I just said that when you have a kid who is that messed up then you have to be careful what you say to them. Some things could really mess them up even more. I mean think about it, this girl has had a horrible life, been taken away from her parents, been in therapy that doesn't seem to be helping and then this person who is supposed to be acting like her 'mother' tells her, "I hope you have a kid just like you someday"!!!!!! Why would you wish that on the poor girl. Am I the only one that sees anything wrong with this? All the other women on the board thought I was out of line when I said I thought she shouldn't ever have said that to her.