love sometimes give us pain

Malaysia
February 6, 2007 2:41am CST
How do you cope when you loose a loved one? My mother has terminal lung cancer, and Im so afraid it wont be much longer till I loose her. Any advice would
8 responses
@cool1girl (248)
• India
6 Feb 07
I am so sorry for you.Even though only you know the extent of your pain I can just understand how you must feel.Still I feel you can be with her a lot and spend quality time with her.Also pray with her and for her daily.This will give both of you courage to deal with the situation.Also try to think for her now,instead of your agony-think that everyone has a purpose in life,to be alive on this earth.When our life's purpose is fulfilled,we go back...where we came from.Now,maybe your mother's life's purpose is complete.It will cause her soul extreme pain and grief if we try to hold on to her for our own needs.So both of you pray to God to let you both reincarnate again together,in another lifetime.Tell your mother about this too and that she should pray for it too.I'm sure you too will be together again....all you have to do is wait for the right time.God is with you.I am praying for both of you.All the best!
• Malaysia
7 Feb 07
thats nice.thank you. ..
• Malaysia
7 Feb 07
thank you for responding.i appreciate that. ..
@zhell_12 (119)
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
all of us will encounter problems that can either hurt us. god will never gives us trial if we cant handle it. im sure god has his reason for having ur mom a cancer. just be prepared whatever happens. life will still go on and be strong.
• Malaysia
7 Feb 07
yeah..thats right.. ..
• Malaysia
7 Feb 07
yeah..thats right.. ..
@cheerldr (594)
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
Spending time with your mom would be a great medicine for her.
• Malaysia
7 Feb 07
yeah..thats right.. ..
• Malaysia
7 Feb 07
thank you for responding.i appreciate that. ..
• United States
6 Feb 07
I can kind of relate to what you are going through. Although my mother was taken suddenly by a brain anurism last September. She was very healthy for the most part. I was at my parents house when it happened and I will never forget it as long as I live. We were so close and she was my best friend. I was also 6 months pregnant with her first grandchild. Needless to say...I had a lot on my plate to deal with. Just spend every moment you can with her and tell her how much you love her. Her spirit will always be around you. My son who is now 7 weeks old will stare off into space and smile and laugh. I know she is around him all the time. I am so sorry for what you are going through. A mom is an irreplacable person. And also make sure you have a good support system for when she does pass. I am in a grief support group and it does help talking to people who have experienced losing loved ones. And dont forget to love her as much as possible while she is here.
• Malaysia
7 Feb 07
well,that your opinion.thank you very much. ..
@dta_kitty (191)
• India
7 Feb 07
The best thing would be to spend as much time as you possibly can with her.Try finding out what she always wanted to do and never got to ,and try doing that for her.Places she wanted to go, if she can be taken out.Ask your relatives to meet her.Dont let her stay by herself any time.Have someone accompany her and talking to her all the time.Take time to talk to her,like how much she means to you.And the option most people dont suggest.Pray that she will be cured.
• Malaysia
10 Feb 07
thank you.. .
• India
10 Feb 07
I've lost a very beloved dog and a grandpa who loved me very much. It was really hard for me to get over both. I tend to detach myself from the world at such times. I never want to losrmy mom because she's given me the love of both parents being single and brought me up. I love her so. I can't and don't even want to imagone your anguish right now. I hope things turn out as well as possible as things stand for you, Raghav
• Malaysia
11 Feb 07
i am sorry for that.thanks for sharing.. ..
• China
6 Feb 07
I feel so sorry to hear that. please accept my best wishes from China. I think the best way for you to do is to stay with your mother. every minute is priceless now.every minute will become sweet memory forever. may God bless your mother. And I hope you may recieve 10000 best wishes from mylotians
• Malaysia
7 Feb 07
thats nice.thank you. ..
• United States
6 Feb 07
i a so sorry for what you and your mom are going thru...it is not easy watching a loved one go thru the pain of cancer and eventually passing away...my dad was only diagnosed 3 weeks before he passed of lung cancer that had metastasized to his spine.we had no time really to prepare..we had no clue that his back pain was caused by cancer...this was 2 yeas ago and 7 days befoe x-mas and i am still in pain...do all you can to spend time with your mother.i dont believe the pain ever goes away..i still cry like a baby when i think of my dad and his last weeks...let her know everyday how much you love her...make memories with her...the one organization that really came thru for us and provided great support was hospice..they are wonderful ppl and it probably wouldnt hurt for you to talk to someone there..they offer quite a few services when you are at a loss because your brain goes to mush towards the end..they are there...i will be praying for you and your mom and family...(crying now)
• Malaysia
7 Feb 07
thank you for responding.i appreciate that. ..