In the doghouse
By dustyland87
@dustyland87 (148)
United States
February 6, 2007 4:12am CST
Ok so my question is for those married men out there. When you royally screw up how do you get yourself out of the doghouse? I have done the unthinkable and made the most perfect woman cry and now she's utterly anoyed at me and I have no idea how to get out of the mess I've found myself in. Basicly I was lacking in my household duties and was an unappreciative jerk. She started speaking to me again but I know that I'm still on her sh*t list. So men help me out here, what do I do to get out of the doghouse and off the couch?
2 responses
@tigrashadow (1086)
• Australia
6 Feb 07
ok im not a guy but yanno what....actions speak louder than words (though words help too in these cases)....show her how much you appreciate her...let her know that she is the most perfect woman (not just us) to you. show her by treating her to a wonderful evening of pampering by you, write a letter or poem of how you feel, find a song or songs that remind you of her and make a cd for her, and stop lacking in the household duties...
at least shes talking to you, its a start hehe...good luck...
we just like to know we are loved and appreciated...so start with that...
good luck and i hope you dont mind that i responded
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@dustyland87 (148)
• United States
6 Feb 07
No I don't mind at all, I really do appreciate the advice too. I didn't really mean to lack in things around the house. I guess I got so use to her being home and doing them, that when she started working again I didn't think to start helping. I feel really bad because she was so hurt she cried, and that is something I never want to do again is see her cry. I love her greatly and hurting her was the last thing I ever wanted to do.
@tigrashadow (1086)
• Australia
6 Feb 07
then tell her hon n not me or anyone online...even go so far as to write up a chore schedule so she knows what you will help out with ....and stick to it.....
i still think you both need the pamper night to show how much you love her .....
take care
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Book an appointment for her to do something she enjoys. Get a massage, or her hair done or send her out for a girls' day with some friends. Then while she's gone, do all the household chores, everything you're supposed to do as well as everything she normally does. Then make a really nice meal and buy her something she likes like flowers or something she collects. Then set it all up for when she gets home and say you're sorry and you promise never to do it again. Then cater to her every need all night.
And most importantly:
KEEP YOUR PROMISE!!
@dustyland87 (148)
• United States
6 Feb 07
LOL ya know I'm starting to think that maybe theres a theme here :) I get what you're saying though and I thank you :)
@dustyland87 (148)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I was thinking more on the lines of giving her a lazy day. Just letting her sleep in and relax while I took care of everything around the house. Either that or on my next day off just clean everything and then take her out to dinner and a movie. She doesn't ask me to do much either which is whats making me feel worse. I honestly didn't even think about it. I got so use to her being home all the time and everything always being done that after she started working I guess I never thought to help out.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Well, you said the problem was that you didn't do the housework you were supposed to. So the best way to apologize is to do it. But the key to making it special is to do it when she's not there.
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