Are any of you struggling to teach your children manners
By twaambolee
@twaambolee (260)
Zambia
February 6, 2007 7:00am CST
I don't have any kids but i believe good manners are essential skills that every child should posses, a theory that i totally agree with, but find that most parents struggle to achieve.
Are any of you struggling to teach your children proper manners?share your experiences please.Is this struggle due to the controlling power of the parent or the unwilling desire of the child to be guided.
The reason I ask this is because i have come across a few families were parents don't even try to guide their kids in the house but expect them to have manners wen they are out there,is this right?
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3 responses
@CRiley27 (983)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I have to say, I get comments from people often about how my children are so polite. Don't get me wrong, they have been know to burp or fart, and just laugh, but we are quick to put them in their place about it. It drives me nuts to see other children who are just "give me" "I want" But it comes from what you are taught, or not taught.
@twaambolee (260)
• Zambia
6 Feb 07
For people to give you good comments about your kids,they have probably noticed their manners.I think more parents should take the appraoch of getting their kids back to their rightful places,taking into consideration that children cannot complete what adults see as easy,routine tasks necessary for everday independence,there has to be multiple explanations and practice sessions inorder for the intended lesson to sink in and become the status quo.
What really bothers me is were some parents just let their children be...i guess it does come from what you are taught,or not taught.So would you say that what goes in,goes out?
Thanks for the response CRiley27.
@rlshaw (871)
• United States
6 Feb 07
My daughter is 18 months old and I'm trying to teach her manners... Teaching her please, thank you, sorry.. Trying to teach her eating manners.. But when my husband is home he does the opposite at meal time... teachs her to spit out her food and stuff.. IT really makes me mad... He says its his job to teach her the bad things... I tell him you don't need to teach her bad things .. she just picks up on them.. I hope that I have more influence on her than he does ..When he does that stuff I tell her daddy is naughty.. And your a good girl. :)
@twaambolee (260)
• Zambia
6 Feb 07
I hope too that she gets more influenced by you than by your husband,in that aspect.Last week i was having dinner in a restaurant, a family with two kids had trouble controlling them..one was busy spitting while the other kept making funny faces at other dinners,the whole situation got out of hand that they had to leave before they even finished their food,what an emberassment they went home with.
Thanks rlshaw for the response.
@nickventere (1420)
• Zambia
8 Sep 08
Well, teaching kids manners is an easy task when the relationship with your children is well defined. For instance, our children are more like our very own friends. We choose to be open with them. So we share quite a lot and tutoring them becomes very easy, especially in etiquette.
