Can you continue your life as usual after married and have a new family?
By coffebing
@coffebing (252)
Malaysia
February 6, 2007 8:27am CST
Who in this world will be determined enough to leave their children at home to continue the life he or she wanted or dreamt of...Ppl around me usually faces the same situation after they married and build up a new family.For women, most of them put down their ambition and prefer to spend time with their child.For men, they forget their dream and tries so hard to find a steady work so that their family gets a better life.Cant this situation change?
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@ethanmama (1745)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
You can't really say that things will be 100% the same when you already get married and have a child. First of all, you have somebody who depends on you already. You've got to think of his/her welfare. That's the reason why people set aside their personal ambition.
BUT you can compromise with the situation. You can still pursue whatever you want to do with your life. Sure, it will be difficult, but it can be done. It takes a lot of dedication and faith that YOU CAN DO IT!
Before you jump into marriage and start and family, you really have to think long and hard -- Is this what you want? Will your partner compromise with you? Will you have any childcare or backup plan?
I am a doctor. I'm still practicing my profession even if I'm married and I have a child. It's not easy juggling being a doctor and being a mom, but it can be done. I wanted it all-- I wanted to be a wife, a mom and a doctor. Of course, I don't practice full time coz I also need to take care of my son. But I'm doing what I love and I'm happy with my life and who I am.
@marief2rnurse (2704)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Once you get married, your life is totally changed. You won't be able to go back to how your life was when you were single because, first of all, you will be living with someone... you have lots of adjustments though and your priorities may be changed as well.