what would be a better advice for her?
By wesker311
@wesker311 (508)
Philippines
February 6, 2007 9:01am CST
my bestfriend for more than 10 years is having a problem with her boyfriend. february 2006 this guy came fom the US to see and be with her, he stayed here for a month. after going back to the states his mother called to tell my bestfriend to leave him alone because he's a married man.
she tried talking to her boyfriend and yes he admitted that he is married but he said he doesnt love the girl, he only married her because he got her pregnant. a year has passed and my bestfriend have already forgotten the guy but guess what? he came back the same date he came here to see my bestfriend. he said it's their anniversary date and he's here now so she doesnt have to worry. me and my bestfriend were both christians and we both believe that adultery is a BIG sin! she would tell me that being with him makes her feel they're commiting adultery. okay so the guy dont love her wife but my friend cant stand the thought of being a mistress but she still love him. and she cant stop thinking about the child his boyfriend has with his wife. i already told her not to see the guy anymore but she would tell me that this guy flew 10,000 miles to come here to be with her and he would tell her that isn't that enough for you to know that I LOVE YOU??? guys help me to open the mind of my bestfriend! i want her to be happy!
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@nidahali (446)
• Pakistan
6 Feb 07
Try to make her see the fact that the guy had already gotten his wife preganent BEFORE marrying her. So adultery is not a new thing to him but as for your friend, it is a SIN. Make her trust her gutt feeling because gut feelings are 99% right. If that guy loves your friend so much then why did he get the other woman preganent? Ask your friend to confront him with this question that if he truely loves her like he says he does than how could he have had done that. Try to take your friend on a trip somewhere away from that guy and make her go out and hang out with friends so that she might forget that guy totally and if he visits next time, she might have the courage to ask him to leave her alone. Also you can call his mother and inform her that her son has again come here. So that she might interven and make her son go back home.
@wesker311 (508)
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
i told her already to tell him to get lost! and she wants me to do it for her because i told her not to see this guy even though he flew 10,000miles from here. i dont care if that guy spend too much money to come here he doesnt have the right to lie to my bestfriend. i also would not like to see the guy because i might kill him myself! i hate him! i've met him a year ago and he seemed nice but when i knew of what he hides i got turned off! my bestfriend treated me like a sister and i do the same to her, she was always there when i needed her and i couldnt even be there for her when she needed me. i cant seem to formulate a good advice to give her to leave the guy! she loves him so much! i just want her to be happy! and i also want her to do the right decision.
