Does love die?
By questionthis
@questionthis (143)
Netherlands
February 6, 2007 11:49am CST
How do you feel about your ex's? I've loved a few in my life, and I still love all of them; I wouldn't want to go back into a relationship with any of them, but I still care about them and would like to stay in touch, just to know they are well and happy. Same with old friends that are no longer around - just because we had differences doesn't mean I no longer care. Some think that is wrong - that once a relationship is over it should just be over...but I don't work that way. What are your opinions?
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11 responses
@ashjoe76 (1422)
• India
8 Feb 07
What you talk about is possible in the case of everyone, but we tend to nurture bitterness the moment we break up with a person. I have seen quite a few people who were so ideally in love, but had to break up in the future for some trivial reason, and then treating each other like life-long enelies. They don't shake hands, or keep eye contact in public functions. Though I feel it is better to leave them alone, since they may have their own valid reasons for this behaviour, I fel a bit dejected when I think of the good times these two people shared. This sudden change in their life makes all those wonderful moments deceptive in nature. Like, they were behaving so with some expectations and the moment those expectations were over, they are not better than two beasts calling out for each other's blood. This is a disgusting human condition, I feel.
@questionthis (143)
• Netherlands
8 Feb 07
I couldn't agree with you more. I think it's sad when anyones pride gets in the way of friendship, and the positive things shared are tainted and/or lost.
@varunshah_99 (301)
• India
8 Feb 07
I think the love may one day die but the infatuation will be there forever..
@mdilan (803)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Well, this is like a really catchy question. I think there are some people that would never ever like to be in contact with them, and there are others that do totally the opposite. In my personal opinion, I think that one should try to get over with the past, specially if it was a love partner.
@questionthis (143)
• Netherlands
8 Feb 07
I agree with getting over the past; I guess I struggle with losing contact with the unique qualities that I loved in each person.
@hcromer (2710)
• United States
3 Apr 07
I still have love for most of my exes. I can't help it, but seeing them usually brings me to tears. The people that I knew I loved when I was with them, I still love to this day. I can't help it, if my boyfriend gets mad about it he'll have to get over it, it's just something you can't help.
@ag_abscruzmd (2283)
• United States
3 Apr 07
I don't have romantic feelings anymore for my ex's but I try my best to remain good friends with them, which I've been successful at doing so far. No hard feelings, so to speak. It's a good feeling to still care for our past loves because they had been a part of our lives and had somehow contributed to our data bank of good memories. Besides, friendship is good especially if people help each other out in times of need. But, let's say, an ex still wants to get involved romantically, and I don't have romantic feelings for him anymore, I wouldn't oblige but instead make him realize that it's better to be friends. It's difficult at first but it will still work out well in the end. Happy myLotting!
@jimhuo2008 (572)
• China
3 Apr 07
haha, I hv thought that only I have this kind of ideas. have the same feeling with you. No one I want to give up. they are all good to me , but you know , this is in China, a husband and a wife is allowed . so, I also want to know , HOw can I do ?
@Destiny007 (5805)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Yes, love can die. It can be killed.
This can take years to accomplish, but it can be done.
I have no desire whatsoever for any type of contact with my ex.
There are people who have a sickness inside of them, and they can destroy any shred of feeling or caring that someone may have ever felt about them.
So yes, love can die.
@coffeeshot (3783)
• Australia
8 Feb 07
I think if you truly love somebody, you'll never stop loving them. That is why a mother will always love her son/daughter even if he murders soemone. Sounds weird but love is a powerful thing!
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
Absolutely, love will die.. I do have lots of boyfriends that really love me. And when the time that we need to say goodbye, it's painful and still the love is there. But my feelings will become die when the person whom i really love, will make pain to my heart. If he will cheat or make bad things that i cannot really swallow.. The love will turn to hatred. And little by little, the love i feel to that person will surely die.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I was in love with what I thought was my soul mate. I loved him with all my heart. He and i broke up and i still wanted to be friends. But he didnt. Its been almost a year now and I still yearn for him. He and I have talked and he is willing to be my freind again but its hard I stay away because I hurt so much . It gets easier in time but I doubt I will truly ever forget him. He has a special place in my heart and always will.I think if you can handle it you should stay friends. if you cant handle it then leave it alone.
