How many times have you heard, or said, I'll quit tomorrow?
@sweetskywoman (6)
United States
February 6, 2007 2:58pm CST
Loving someone who is a functioning alcoholic. I say functioning because he has a job. So many times I have heard this, "I'll quit tomorrow". But tomorrow never comes and he's drunker than ever. I'm trying to understand this person and be supportive. So many people have given up, I'm not able to do that. So many things in his life have to go to the extreme. There seems to be something constantly happening in his life or else he finds things to happen around him.
I'm hoping he will quit someday, I don't want to eventually be one of those who's given up on him. So any comments or suggestions, any advice...
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@PoeTalker (715)
• United States
6 Feb 07
My boyfriend comes from an alchoholic family. I have never seen anything like it in my life and I honestly never knew people lived that way. His uncles preffered drink is peppermint shnapps. He drinks it during work, in the car... even at his sons graduation... he takes it everywhere he goes in a little coffee mug.
He has 3 kids and a wife who is a fuctioning alcholic as well. She also has no skills and cannot get a job. Last week his liver gave up on him and he was throwing and peeing blood everywhere. The house was covered in blood. He survived and is now awaiting for a liver transplant. When I visited him in the hospital... all he said is I want to stop drinking, and then I NEED to stop drinking.
I don't think he will... it's an addiction and sometimes peoples lives are so terrible it just helps them get through it until it's over.
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@sweetskywoman (6)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Thank you for that. I am so afraid something like that will happen to my friend. He's an ex but I still love and care for him deeply and I get so worried about his health. He drinks like that also. It's with him everywhere he goes. And that's not his only addiction. I don't know what makes him so destructive.
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@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
6 Feb 07
I feel my husband drinks too much also and I have heard him say he can quit if he wants too , when we get in a fight he always says it will be the last but it never is . Like you I hope someday he will as I love him with all my heart but can't handle his drinking and fear that if I ever leave him this will be the reason .
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@sweetskywoman (6)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Thank you for your response. I'm afraid to say it but that is the reason I didn't marry him. I kept telling myself that he would quit, but he seemed to far gone when I met him. If you can understand what I mean by that.
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@paule4129 (968)
• United States
22 Feb 07
it dont do any good to push shove call the cops treatment ect... a persons got towant to quit if tough lovins hard to do join the club ive got my war stories with exs and thats why they are exs .i loved with all my heart and got burned over and over .now i got to do it for myself and find someone like me and be hopin shes thinkin like me to then i think the happy ending will finish this tale of tears not to say ive had my struggles and quit to late too and thats probable the reason im alone now and stickin with a sober and somewhat normal life lol....
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I also have too many addicts in my family & it's incredibly painful to watch. You feel so helpless, and really you are. Until they want help & actively seek it, they won't stop. There is nothing you can do or say that will make them stop. There is nothing logical about addiction, so do yourself a favor & stop trying to understand it.
The best you can do is make the best choices for yourself. Finding a support group like Alanon may be a good idea.
