Are there limits in liking someone?
By nightfall08
@nightfall08 (21)
Philippines
February 6, 2007 7:09pm CST
I have this friend of mine who undoubtingly likes this girl. Unfornately, this friend of mine is married. Are there any limits upon liking another girl once you're attached? Should i be asking him to ignore the thought and feeling? Help pls.
2 responses
@Stringbean (1273)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Absolutely there are limits once you are attached. What does he think his marriage vows were all about. Most wedding vows contain the phrase, "Forsaking all others...."
That means that you have chosen this person to give all your love and caring to and you are forsaking (that means leaving, dumping, forgetting about) all others.
It sounds to me like your friend wasn't ready to be married. I wonder how he would feel if his wife decided she still wants the attention of other men. Not too good, I'll bet.
@nightfall08 (21)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
Thanks for the reply! Well thats the problem. Everytime we mention to him that he's married he always tells us "I know!" or "I'm not doing anything", well in fact at some point he does. Even gives us the response that his wife knows! Is there a better way for us to make him stop with what he's doing???
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
7 Feb 07
Well yes now that he is married. Regardless if the girl is married or not. I guess if he likes her, you can't ask him to ignore the feeling, it will get stronger. Maybe just tell him not to step over the boundaries, because then he will ruin his marriage then will ruin him financially too -that's what divorce mostly does. If the girl is married, it's even worse because then he can risk her husband to know his feelings towards her.
I'm not saying they can't be together, but until both of them are truly single, the limit is there.
