husband having an alleged affair with somebody else

That happened to me, but my wise husband told me of the rumour first before I hear it from somebody else. If I did hear it from other people, I would still confront my husband and give him the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes a marriage is destroyed because of a rumour. We have to trust our husbands and if and when they do stray away, well maybe I wouldn't let go. I think I would fight for him. But one thing I'm sure of, I wouldn't nag him about the girl, especially if its just a rumour.

if this happens to me, i will talk to my husband and ask him about it. it's better to be coming from my husband that from anyone else. if it's true, i'll ask him why he did it. if he gave me a reason that i think is forgivable, then maybe i won't be leaving him right away. (am i so forgiving?). i will also ask him what he plans to do next. if in case it's not true, then good for us and i hope it won't happen. :)

well it is quite sad and i know it would be extremely difficult for a wife to handle such a situation, first be sure about it and leaving him i dont think would do any good, i think just try to find out the reasons where you lack, interact with your husband, show your love for him, and try to get things work out afterall you are his life-partner, and i think it is you who will win

I'll probably tell him straight, talk about it but there is no guarantee that I will not leave him because in this kind of situation, trust issues is the main concern. If I dont trust him, what's the use of being together??!!!....if I stay, I will never have a peace of mind again for as long as i live...

First I would look at the source. Do you trust what this person is saying to be the truth. You know your mate, do you trust him/her? If I thought it to be even slightly true, I would definitely talk with him about it. I am a very jealous type person anyway, I don't like to be lied to about anything. That doesn't mean I'd leave him. If you two really love each other then you could work it out hopefully. But sometimes things happen, or maybe he was put in a position where he was tempted or set up. I'd get to the bottom of it so you can have peace of mind.

it depends on how stable my life would be that time... if i am emotionally unstable.. i wont leave. My child would suffer more. But if the time comes and I had accepted things and ready to move on without him.. I would.. I might consider giving him a second chance but what if he do it again? i bid goodbye.. But what would you do if the "alleged affair" is true??? i havent thought about it.. what about you? :)

Firstly I would ask him about it and give him the benefit of the doubt. After all some people like to start crap even when it didn't happen to begin with. You can usually tell if he is lying or telling the truth with his body language. If he has a problem looking me in the eye and saying that he didn't than I will suspect something, but if he is calm about it than my suspicions won't be raised and I won't think of it again until something of the same manner is told to me.