Be friends with your ex or not...
By gianena
@gianena (256)
Philippines
February 6, 2007 11:05pm CST
Hi peeps. I'm just wondering what you think about being friends with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend. What do you think? Would you still be friends with him/her even after all the cheating and deceiving thingies that your partner has done to you???? They say that time heals all wounds. I guess in my case, it's better to be friends or to be civil with your ex partner. Really... You might be very angry and hurt after the break up specially if you're the one who was dumped... But really, I do believe that time heals all wounds... Been there, done that...
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8 responses
@stefan_diego (556)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
It all depend on how your breakup went down. If you have mutual understanding that it's not gonna work, i think you can be friends. One of my ex is my son's Godmother.
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@cokiemich24 (55)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
hi! well for me, it will depend on the situation cause if he/she dumped you then why be friends with him/her? So rude yet maybe the best way not to remember the pain... :)
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@gianena (256)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
You have a point there but people have different ways in dealing with their experiences.;) I respect what you said. But in my case, I'm friends with some of my ex bfs but there are some whom I'm not friends w/ or not civil with cause I can't force them if they don't want to. hehehehe!!! Anyways, I can still go on with my life even if they don't want me to be their friend. At least, I already did my part. Thanks for the comment.
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@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
12 Feb 07
I am friends with all my ex- boyfriends. But I am not friends with my ex husband.
You say time heals all wounds. But sometimes we need those wounds to stay open a little longer. Than what others think we do to carry on.
As in the case with my ex husband. It has been 12 years. You would think he would of changed a little bit. But he hasn't. He still keeps digging the knife deeper in my back. Plus, hurting my son. Yes, I say my son because he has nothing to do with. No calls, no visits, and no child support.
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@gianena (256)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
I'm sorry to hear that. I know what you mean about wounds staying open a little bit longer. I can't judge you and your husband cause I don't know what really happened but I hope he will come to his senses like visiting and supporting his son. I hope everything will be okay, soon... Take care...
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@sweetrala (1436)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
Depends on the situation.If u cant be civil with him then dont be friends if u can then by all means be friends.AS long as u are over it, the drama and all, u will be OK!
@gianena (256)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
Correct!!! It really depends on the situation, if your ex partner doesn't want to then you can't force him/her. I mean, you can still get on with your life even if your not friends with your ex... There are just things that you can't control.
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@czarina0527 (307)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
hi,for me be friends with my former boyfriend is not easy.it really does that time heals all wounds but for us it is not yet time.there is still a gap between us.i hope someday that we all be okay.
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@gianena (256)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
I agree with you especially if you were the one who got hurt so much. I don't want to be a hypocrite but after a break-up, I don't want to be friends with my partner especially if he was the one who did the deceiving. Time will tell... Time will just really tell... Or there are instances that you can never meet your exbfs/gfs again... But in my case, I'm civil with most of my ex bfs.
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@emquinsat (1058)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
I have always been friends with my ex-boyfriends. I think when we end up our relationship and then we can communicate much better. And understand each other better, then we know we're really better of as friends.
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@drewpee (32)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
this is just my personal opinion ok? ..so dont hate me for this ..:) if you guys are still friends, its either you still love each other ..or you never did ..=)
@janmar (115)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I think any time you can maintain civility it is good and if you can be friends, then that is better. You will never forget, but forgiving is part of the healing process and sometimes your ex makes a muuuuuch better friend than partner.
